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<blockquote data-quote="Beta" data-source="post: 734379" data-attributes="member: 22597"><p>Thank you, each of you, for taking the time to respond to me and my pain. This site has helped me so much, just knowing we are not alone in this. I read and re-read posts, especially when I'm really down, to be encouraged and for resolve to be strong. </p><p>I know a lot of what I think in my head is "magical thinking" and I know I am being co-dependent in many ways. Typically what happens is I will back off for a few days, or a week or so, and I'll start to feel better (sad but in an accepting way, not like this), and then I start thinking that maybe his heart has softened and that he might want to be contacted, and the whole sorry process starts again. It would be great to talk to a therapist, but it's not in the budget at this time, so this site is my "therapy" for the moment.</p><p> Sometimes I wonder if my attempts to reach him are doing more harm than good and are delaying what God might be trying to do in his life. I wonder if he experiences no initiating contact from us for a period of time, if that might make a difference. </p><p>Again, thank you for your encouragement and counsel. I feel stronger to back away and take care of myself, my husband, and our younger son. I will continue to check back.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Beta, post: 734379, member: 22597"] Thank you, each of you, for taking the time to respond to me and my pain. This site has helped me so much, just knowing we are not alone in this. I read and re-read posts, especially when I'm really down, to be encouraged and for resolve to be strong. I know a lot of what I think in my head is "magical thinking" and I know I am being co-dependent in many ways. Typically what happens is I will back off for a few days, or a week or so, and I'll start to feel better (sad but in an accepting way, not like this), and then I start thinking that maybe his heart has softened and that he might want to be contacted, and the whole sorry process starts again. It would be great to talk to a therapist, but it's not in the budget at this time, so this site is my "therapy" for the moment. Sometimes I wonder if my attempts to reach him are doing more harm than good and are delaying what God might be trying to do in his life. I wonder if he experiences no initiating contact from us for a period of time, if that might make a difference. Again, thank you for your encouragement and counsel. I feel stronger to back away and take care of myself, my husband, and our younger son. I will continue to check back. [/QUOTE]
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