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<blockquote data-quote="newstart" data-source="post: 730541" data-attributes="member: 22416"><p>Amy2355, Your post really touched me. I could have written it except I do not have the grandchildren. How old is your daughter? What makes your situation so hard is that you both were close and you really miss her, I very much understand the pain involved with that.</p><p>My daughter age 35 is involved with a 1/2 ass boyfriend. My husband and I can not tolerate him one bit, I have no idea what my daughter sees in him, and like your daughter, he is horrible influence. My daughter was doing ok before he came into the picture. My daughter got PG but had a miscarriage. Right now my daughter is in the middle of losing everything over this 1/2 ass boyfriend. I asked my daughter the other day what it is about him that she finds so wonderful and she never answered me. He is the type of person that I would never have in my life, he does not give eye contact, does not say hi or bye, well you get the picture. I do miss the good times I had with my daughter but since she has been with him she has changed so much to the worse. I study how to detach on a regular basis. I do understand that nothing can take the place of your adult child but finding things that give satisfaction sure does help.</p><p></p><p>Someone told me this a long time ago and I think it has some merit. Your daughter needs you as much as you need her' There is some truth in that.</p><p></p><p>I feel so much deep down disgust at my daughter for choosing such a horrible mate that working on detachment maybe a bit easier. Sometimes I think my daughter stays with him out of rebellion of me. My daughter is about to lose her home, car and everything else because of their 'togetherness'. They can't move ahead because they fight all the time.</p><p></p><p>I try hard to fill my days with all kinds of stuff but I know it does not replace my relationship with my daughter. I personally would never date a guy that was disrespectful to my parents, what part of that red flag does my daughter not see?</p><p></p><p>This is some of the stuff I do to calm my ache of missing my daughter.</p><p>1. Take time to sit in the sun, even for 20 minutes. It heals my soul.</p><p>2. Hold animals and feel their love.</p><p>3. Cry and cry hard and loud.</p><p>4. Try to wear something nice and comfortable that you feel nice in.</p><p>5. When I shower I invision my pain going down the drain.</p><p></p><p>I hope you have 5 suggestiongs for this broken hearted momma.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="newstart, post: 730541, member: 22416"] Amy2355, Your post really touched me. I could have written it except I do not have the grandchildren. How old is your daughter? What makes your situation so hard is that you both were close and you really miss her, I very much understand the pain involved with that. My daughter age 35 is involved with a 1/2 ass boyfriend. My husband and I can not tolerate him one bit, I have no idea what my daughter sees in him, and like your daughter, he is horrible influence. My daughter was doing ok before he came into the picture. My daughter got PG but had a miscarriage. Right now my daughter is in the middle of losing everything over this 1/2 ass boyfriend. I asked my daughter the other day what it is about him that she finds so wonderful and she never answered me. He is the type of person that I would never have in my life, he does not give eye contact, does not say hi or bye, well you get the picture. I do miss the good times I had with my daughter but since she has been with him she has changed so much to the worse. I study how to detach on a regular basis. I do understand that nothing can take the place of your adult child but finding things that give satisfaction sure does help. Someone told me this a long time ago and I think it has some merit. Your daughter needs you as much as you need her' There is some truth in that. I feel so much deep down disgust at my daughter for choosing such a horrible mate that working on detachment maybe a bit easier. Sometimes I think my daughter stays with him out of rebellion of me. My daughter is about to lose her home, car and everything else because of their 'togetherness'. They can't move ahead because they fight all the time. I try hard to fill my days with all kinds of stuff but I know it does not replace my relationship with my daughter. I personally would never date a guy that was disrespectful to my parents, what part of that red flag does my daughter not see? This is some of the stuff I do to calm my ache of missing my daughter. 1. Take time to sit in the sun, even for 20 minutes. It heals my soul. 2. Hold animals and feel their love. 3. Cry and cry hard and loud. 4. Try to wear something nice and comfortable that you feel nice in. 5. When I shower I invision my pain going down the drain. I hope you have 5 suggestiongs for this broken hearted momma. [/QUOTE]
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