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<blockquote data-quote="newstart" data-source="post: 731147" data-attributes="member: 22416"><p><em>Amy2355 I am so sorry. I know your heart is torn in a thousand pieces. I can remember several times my daughter completely ignoring me when she was with a boyfriend, and if I was around them together she was horribly mean to me. For my own nerves, I just left her alone. I think the pain would be triple if there was a grandchild involved. When I completely let go of my daughter, that is when she started to miss me and try to work things out with me, I had to completely back off. Each persons time table is different. I kept reminding myself of the words a friend once told me 'Your daughter needs you as much as you need her'. I think my daughter gets so busy with her own life, her own 1/2 ass boyfriend, her own stuff that time just goes by and I don't fit in her life sometimes. I make peace with this, even though there have been times in the past that our relationship did work. It truly is an odd feeling to be completely ingnored by your own daughter. I know there is nothing that can replace a relationship, no matter how we try to fill the void, the void is as big as the universe, but I have to give her that space and time. I have told my daughter many times that I do not want to be in a relationship with anyone that does not want to be in one with me. It has to be two people wanting to be together.. It is horribly hard to want this union and the other person does not. My daughter and I are off and on because of her disorder. Our relationship is based on her moods. Last night we had a great time shopping, laughed enjoyed each others company, bought some quality cheese, we both love to experiment with new cheeses, and had a great time. Today she may wake up and decide she can't stand me, she may try to hurt my feelings or say something very mean. It is off and on, if she knows she is going to be very mean, she tries to ignore me because I do have the strength to blow her off for longer periods of time. I tell her that people can and should be nice to each other EVERY DAY. I know that people can have peace and harmony with each other everyday, all the time even when tensions run high, you can still be kind and respectful.. I remember my grandmother and me, we had peace, harmony, good will, laughter each and everyday, I know it is possible.. Sometimes my husband can get a bit testy and I have to remind him that peace and harmony are gifts that you can enjoy everyday. I wish you peace and harmony with yourself and with those you love, send your daughter love through meditation or prayer or telepathy... My mom is not a phone person, she just does not want to talk on the phone and each time I call her she says 'just call me on the ESP line' she says she can hear me on that line better. I have started doing that to my daughter when she is being highly ugly. I will ignore her and send her love through prayer.</em></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="newstart, post: 731147, member: 22416"] [I]Amy2355 I am so sorry. I know your heart is torn in a thousand pieces. I can remember several times my daughter completely ignoring me when she was with a boyfriend, and if I was around them together she was horribly mean to me. For my own nerves, I just left her alone. I think the pain would be triple if there was a grandchild involved. When I completely let go of my daughter, that is when she started to miss me and try to work things out with me, I had to completely back off. Each persons time table is different. I kept reminding myself of the words a friend once told me 'Your daughter needs you as much as you need her'. I think my daughter gets so busy with her own life, her own 1/2 ass boyfriend, her own stuff that time just goes by and I don't fit in her life sometimes. I make peace with this, even though there have been times in the past that our relationship did work. It truly is an odd feeling to be completely ingnored by your own daughter. I know there is nothing that can replace a relationship, no matter how we try to fill the void, the void is as big as the universe, but I have to give her that space and time. I have told my daughter many times that I do not want to be in a relationship with anyone that does not want to be in one with me. It has to be two people wanting to be together.. It is horribly hard to want this union and the other person does not. My daughter and I are off and on because of her disorder. Our relationship is based on her moods. Last night we had a great time shopping, laughed enjoyed each others company, bought some quality cheese, we both love to experiment with new cheeses, and had a great time. Today she may wake up and decide she can't stand me, she may try to hurt my feelings or say something very mean. It is off and on, if she knows she is going to be very mean, she tries to ignore me because I do have the strength to blow her off for longer periods of time. I tell her that people can and should be nice to each other EVERY DAY. I know that people can have peace and harmony with each other everyday, all the time even when tensions run high, you can still be kind and respectful.. I remember my grandmother and me, we had peace, harmony, good will, laughter each and everyday, I know it is possible.. Sometimes my husband can get a bit testy and I have to remind him that peace and harmony are gifts that you can enjoy everyday. I wish you peace and harmony with yourself and with those you love, send your daughter love through meditation or prayer or telepathy... My mom is not a phone person, she just does not want to talk on the phone and each time I call her she says 'just call me on the ESP line' she says she can hear me on that line better. I have started doing that to my daughter when she is being highly ugly. I will ignore her and send her love through prayer.[/I] [/QUOTE]
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