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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 600668" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi there. I'm really sorry things are so out of control for you. I know how scary it is to live with a drug user.</p><p></p><p>Hon, you have to think about, first and foremost, yourself and your husband. You can't put yourself in danger and risk health problems, even for your kids, especially when they choose to use drugs, which leads to dangerous, stress-making behavior for you. If I were you, I'd never have left. The kids would have left and not come home until th ey were in a rehab, working the program. That includes seventeen year old. I would have called the cops if I knew my son was high and dangerous. I did call the cops on my daughter and all I did was find her smoking pot. I wanted to turn in the guy who had given her the pot and she wouldn't tell me who it was so I handed it over to the cops, since she HAD told me it was a thirty something year old adult. </p><p></p><p>You should NOT have to leave your own house and your husband. </p><p></p><p>Have you ever gone to an Al-Anon or Nar-Anon meeting? I strongly recommend either one so that you can learn the hard task of letting go and of taking your own life back and of learning that there is NOTHING you can do to help your sons' You can't control anybody in the world except yourself. Your kids have to decide they want to change or they won't. But YOU can learn how to live a sane life even while some of your loved ones are not. Worrying about your son's situation will not make him better. He is a drug addict and he needs to help himself. And you need to help yourself get back to a good place since there is nothing you can do for your son. </p><p></p><p>Yor mom should not have to put up with your son's stress either and your husband did in my opinion the right thing by making your son leave. If he is so afraid of your son that he doesn't want him in a homeless shelter nearby (which is something he can't control, by the way) your son needs to find somewhere else to live. These drug users are resourceful. They will find places to sleep. Usually since their main goal in life is to get high or wasted they don't really care where they live. You don't need to give t hem warm, fuzzy lodgings, food, cell phones, car use etc. to help them be comfortable while they self-destruct. How will that make them want to stop using drugs?</p><p></p><p>Hugs and keep us posted!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 600668, member: 1550"] Hi there. I'm really sorry things are so out of control for you. I know how scary it is to live with a drug user. Hon, you have to think about, first and foremost, yourself and your husband. You can't put yourself in danger and risk health problems, even for your kids, especially when they choose to use drugs, which leads to dangerous, stress-making behavior for you. If I were you, I'd never have left. The kids would have left and not come home until th ey were in a rehab, working the program. That includes seventeen year old. I would have called the cops if I knew my son was high and dangerous. I did call the cops on my daughter and all I did was find her smoking pot. I wanted to turn in the guy who had given her the pot and she wouldn't tell me who it was so I handed it over to the cops, since she HAD told me it was a thirty something year old adult. You should NOT have to leave your own house and your husband. Have you ever gone to an Al-Anon or Nar-Anon meeting? I strongly recommend either one so that you can learn the hard task of letting go and of taking your own life back and of learning that there is NOTHING you can do to help your sons' You can't control anybody in the world except yourself. Your kids have to decide they want to change or they won't. But YOU can learn how to live a sane life even while some of your loved ones are not. Worrying about your son's situation will not make him better. He is a drug addict and he needs to help himself. And you need to help yourself get back to a good place since there is nothing you can do for your son. Yor mom should not have to put up with your son's stress either and your husband did in my opinion the right thing by making your son leave. If he is so afraid of your son that he doesn't want him in a homeless shelter nearby (which is something he can't control, by the way) your son needs to find somewhere else to live. These drug users are resourceful. They will find places to sleep. Usually since their main goal in life is to get high or wasted they don't really care where they live. You don't need to give t hem warm, fuzzy lodgings, food, cell phones, car use etc. to help them be comfortable while they self-destruct. How will that make them want to stop using drugs? Hugs and keep us posted!! [/QUOTE]
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