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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 655009" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Weary, one thing is that the relationship we have with our very sick kids is lopsided. It's not a normal, collegial back and forth. Remember you are mommy and she calls when she's scared and sick and when things take an upturn. We just want our mommy to know. This is not connected at all to you and your husband and all you have done for her. This is, as always, all about her.</p><p></p><p>Your feelings are normal. My best advice is so severely limit contact but when you do talk, fake it til you make it: be polite and cordial like you would with anymore. Maintain emotional distance. Don't react and engage. Keep it short. </p><p></p><p>I had to write down all I was willing to say and whip it out because I couldn't do what I just wrote above on the spot.</p><p></p><p>Like they say in alanon...say what you mean but don't say it mean. </p><p></p><p>I found that in order to do that I had to keep it short, have a script and keep it infrequent. </p><p></p><p>Your relationship down the road will be just fine. </p><p></p><p>Hugs. This is hard.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 655009, member: 17542"] Weary, one thing is that the relationship we have with our very sick kids is lopsided. It's not a normal, collegial back and forth. Remember you are mommy and she calls when she's scared and sick and when things take an upturn. We just want our mommy to know. This is not connected at all to you and your husband and all you have done for her. This is, as always, all about her. Your feelings are normal. My best advice is so severely limit contact but when you do talk, fake it til you make it: be polite and cordial like you would with anymore. Maintain emotional distance. Don't react and engage. Keep it short. I had to write down all I was willing to say and whip it out because I couldn't do what I just wrote above on the spot. Like they say in alanon...say what you mean but don't say it mean. I found that in order to do that I had to keep it short, have a script and keep it infrequent. Your relationship down the road will be just fine. Hugs. This is hard. [/QUOTE]
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