Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Feeling like a terrible mother but....
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 655361" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>It is sad and ironic that we get what we wish for (our Difficult Child's in human form, in the form that we recognize and love), and it hurts so much. Because in that form they are vulnerable, and sad and afraid.</p><p></p><p>It took me a long time to realize that.</p><p></p><p>It is only in that form that they can get better...they have to see, to suffer, and to figure their own way out. I believe that.</p><p></p><p>But it is very very sad to watch. I can understand how they can't endure it and go back to their old ways instead. It would be a difficult passage for anyone, and our Difficult Child's have pretty much already proven themselves to be...not resilient. </p><p></p><p>I would note that she is still controlling things..she chooses not to go to jail right now? that isn't really her right or her choice. She is still DCing..still thinking the rules don't apply, or she is somehow above the law. That will change with time.</p><p></p><p>Weary, I'm glad you had this moment of shared humanity with her. I would cry too. I hope you can let her grow. I hope she can take this window and get a little better.</p><p></p><p>Hugs today,</p><p></p><p>Echo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 655361, member: 17269"] It is sad and ironic that we get what we wish for (our Difficult Child's in human form, in the form that we recognize and love), and it hurts so much. Because in that form they are vulnerable, and sad and afraid. It took me a long time to realize that. It is only in that form that they can get better...they have to see, to suffer, and to figure their own way out. I believe that. But it is very very sad to watch. I can understand how they can't endure it and go back to their old ways instead. It would be a difficult passage for anyone, and our Difficult Child's have pretty much already proven themselves to be...not resilient. I would note that she is still controlling things..she chooses not to go to jail right now? that isn't really her right or her choice. She is still DCing..still thinking the rules don't apply, or she is somehow above the law. That will change with time. Weary, I'm glad you had this moment of shared humanity with her. I would cry too. I hope you can let her grow. I hope she can take this window and get a little better. Hugs today, Echo [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Feeling like a terrible mother but....
Top