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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 678286" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>I think we can all look back and play the coulda, woulda, shoulda game. The perfect parent is a mythical creature that rides a unicorn. We have all done the best we could at the time we were doing it. Of course when we look back we can see areas of life that we could have done things differently but it is more important to live in the present moment. I also believe that even if we had a little time machine and could go back and change how we did A, B, or C, there is no guarantee that the outcome would be different and if was different it might be worse.</p><p>I really try not to live with regret, there is nothing I can do to change or alter what has happened. I can however learn from my past so that I don't repeat that which did not work out well.</p><p>I wasn't a perfect parent, I know I made mistakes. I lived through all the guilt of thinking that my son's life issues were somehow all my fault. I bent over backwards many times to try and "make things right" for him, helping/enabling him, giving him 2nd chances for the umpteenth time. In the end, I've done all I can and my son continues to choose to live his life on his terms.</p><p>I don't like it but I have come to accept it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 678286, member: 18516"] I think we can all look back and play the coulda, woulda, shoulda game. The perfect parent is a mythical creature that rides a unicorn. We have all done the best we could at the time we were doing it. Of course when we look back we can see areas of life that we could have done things differently but it is more important to live in the present moment. I also believe that even if we had a little time machine and could go back and change how we did A, B, or C, there is no guarantee that the outcome would be different and if was different it might be worse. I really try not to live with regret, there is nothing I can do to change or alter what has happened. I can however learn from my past so that I don't repeat that which did not work out well. I wasn't a perfect parent, I know I made mistakes. I lived through all the guilt of thinking that my son's life issues were somehow all my fault. I bent over backwards many times to try and "make things right" for him, helping/enabling him, giving him 2nd chances for the umpteenth time. In the end, I've done all I can and my son continues to choose to live his life on his terms. I don't like it but I have come to accept it. [/QUOTE]
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