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<blockquote data-quote="MuM_of_OCD_kiddo" data-source="post: 449391" data-attributes="member: 12241"><p>Two or three quick thoughts that came to mind...</p><p></p><p></p><p><strong>First of all - you need mini breaks. If you don't take care of yourself, who will???</strong> Call your best friend or your fav sister and invite yourself for the weekend - just you alone, no hubby, no kids, not even the baby! Or if you prefer to unwind alone - I suggest book yourself into a hotel in the next town over, stop by the library for some books or rent a couple of DVDs and have some quiet unwinding time for yourself [don't have to be fancy or far away - across town will do and cheap if necessary if money is tight!]. Leave your husband to deal with all 5 of them [oooops!] for the weekend [and make it a long one - Friday evening when he comes in from work until in the wee hours on Monday morning before he needs to step back out] - I bet he will be more open to offer you some support and hands on help when you come back! </p><p></p><p>Once the kids are back to school - use the mornings [I am assuming you are a stay at home mom?] - and do something for yourself - exercise, eat healthier [that might help the kids too], get a hobby - just anything to make you feel better and replenish your batteries and self.</p><p></p><p>Look for possible counseling and/or if possible a support group of other ppl/parents dealing with the same issues you do. You need someone in real life to talk to, and if friends, family and associates don't get it, keep looking until you find someone new to talk to. Stuff like the things our kids can come up with, can eat you up and make you as unbalanced and erratic in the long run as our difficult children are, if we cannot unwind and put a bit of emotional and sometimes physical distance between us and them. You are what holds your family together - and if you fall apart, everything else will spiral down the drain too. So be selfish and put your own wellbeing first - so you can remain strong and do what you need to do to help your children! Heartfelt hugs to you!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="MuM_of_OCD_kiddo, post: 449391, member: 12241"] Two or three quick thoughts that came to mind... [B]First of all - you need mini breaks. If you don't take care of yourself, who will???[/B] Call your best friend or your fav sister and invite yourself for the weekend - just you alone, no hubby, no kids, not even the baby! Or if you prefer to unwind alone - I suggest book yourself into a hotel in the next town over, stop by the library for some books or rent a couple of DVDs and have some quiet unwinding time for yourself [don't have to be fancy or far away - across town will do and cheap if necessary if money is tight!]. Leave your husband to deal with all 5 of them [oooops!] for the weekend [and make it a long one - Friday evening when he comes in from work until in the wee hours on Monday morning before he needs to step back out] - I bet he will be more open to offer you some support and hands on help when you come back! Once the kids are back to school - use the mornings [I am assuming you are a stay at home mom?] - and do something for yourself - exercise, eat healthier [that might help the kids too], get a hobby - just anything to make you feel better and replenish your batteries and self. Look for possible counseling and/or if possible a support group of other ppl/parents dealing with the same issues you do. You need someone in real life to talk to, and if friends, family and associates don't get it, keep looking until you find someone new to talk to. Stuff like the things our kids can come up with, can eat you up and make you as unbalanced and erratic in the long run as our difficult children are, if we cannot unwind and put a bit of emotional and sometimes physical distance between us and them. You are what holds your family together - and if you fall apart, everything else will spiral down the drain too. So be selfish and put your own wellbeing first - so you can remain strong and do what you need to do to help your children! Heartfelt hugs to you! [/QUOTE]
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