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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 218367" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>(<span style="font-size: 9px">knock, Knock) brings a tray of cocoa, marshmallows, two very light mugs, some Pepperidge farm Milano cookies, pretty Christmas napkins and peppermint sticks to stir cocoa with.</span> </p><p> </p><p>Sounds like.......you need some support hon. So let me see if I can really help instead of just handing you a cyber cup of scalding hot chocolate water. </p><p> </p><p>Maybe in my ramblings an idea will be typed that is dooable.....</p><p> </p><p>You hate the holes in your walls......and you can't pay to have them fixed. </p><p>What about me teaching you how to fix them yourself? It's not hard, and women are actually VERY good at repairs. There are on line tutorials, me on the phone tutorial, Home Depot or Lowes has classes. If you're like me I am at my best when I'm learning something. If I learn something that few people can do or something that improves my home? It improves my mood. Fist holes or foot holes CAN be repaired without a bunch of expense AND if you have a Habitat for humanity close? They can help with discount materials, Craigs list has a free or WANTED list - you post, then get responses - then pick up the stuff. You'd need - sheetrock, a good razor knife, sheetrock tape, a nail, string, SAND PAPER, and a bucket of goo. a keyhole saw may be a small $4.00 expense - but well worth it. </p><p>Now you don't have holes - just off colored grayish patch jobs and those can be painted in the spring....or whenever. </p><p> </p><p>Once you got the holes patched in ONE room that you could call an office you need to change the lock on the door and get a keyed lock. Fix this habitat up for you - girly as you like. THAT is your haven. Now you have a place to work. You could work from home a little more if you have a functioning office. </p><p> </p><p>Get yourself a calendar for your wall and mark in RED anything at all that is an appointment related to difficult child. Keep a smaller calendar with you to show your boss at work and explain THOSE days (in red) will be days you work from home pt. because you have a special needs son. </p><p> </p><p>You can also look into FMLA (family medical leave act) that will help you financially while you are trying to get your son in a better place either physcially or mentally. Also check into something called COBRA....not sure what it's about but something to do with stuff like you are going through I think...not sure. </p><p> </p><p>If you are good at typing - now that your office is set up? Put yourself on Craigslist for hire. Extra $$</p><p> </p><p>HIGHLY recommend finding a local chapter of NAMI, Federation of Families, or some other Pro Parent organization to get support from. You need a friend.....a local friend to help. Check with Big Brothers and get on their list for your son. If he's going to school? Call an IEP meeting and GET HIM A MENTOR TODAY.......someone that will help KEEP him in school. </p><p> </p><p>Maybe like Dude - there is a Salvation Army or Goodwill or thrift store or church pantry or food pantry that he can volunteer at. THIS can keep his mind off of other things and gets HIM in with people networking for a job in his future. </p><p> </p><p>Hugs hon - I know this sounds harder than it is......but you need to just sit, write out positive things and negative things.....and give yourself credit for just being a totally burned out single Mom - dont' think you're BiPolar (BP) but DO get the "I MUST BE SOMETHING" because I've never fallen apart like this.....well honey - YOU ARE WORN OUT. And this ...is what worn out beyond all belief feels like. Start there by saying you DO do enough, and take little steps to improve the things that bother you THE MOST. </p><p> </p><p>Hugs</p><p>Hugs</p><p>Hugs</p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 218367, member: 4964"] ([SIZE=1]knock, Knock) brings a tray of cocoa, marshmallows, two very light mugs, some Pepperidge farm Milano cookies, pretty Christmas napkins and peppermint sticks to stir cocoa with.[/SIZE] Sounds like.......you need some support hon. So let me see if I can really help instead of just handing you a cyber cup of scalding hot chocolate water. Maybe in my ramblings an idea will be typed that is dooable..... You hate the holes in your walls......and you can't pay to have them fixed. What about me teaching you how to fix them yourself? It's not hard, and women are actually VERY good at repairs. There are on line tutorials, me on the phone tutorial, Home Depot or Lowes has classes. If you're like me I am at my best when I'm learning something. If I learn something that few people can do or something that improves my home? It improves my mood. Fist holes or foot holes CAN be repaired without a bunch of expense AND if you have a Habitat for humanity close? They can help with discount materials, Craigs list has a free or WANTED list - you post, then get responses - then pick up the stuff. You'd need - sheetrock, a good razor knife, sheetrock tape, a nail, string, SAND PAPER, and a bucket of goo. a keyhole saw may be a small $4.00 expense - but well worth it. Now you don't have holes - just off colored grayish patch jobs and those can be painted in the spring....or whenever. Once you got the holes patched in ONE room that you could call an office you need to change the lock on the door and get a keyed lock. Fix this habitat up for you - girly as you like. THAT is your haven. Now you have a place to work. You could work from home a little more if you have a functioning office. Get yourself a calendar for your wall and mark in RED anything at all that is an appointment related to difficult child. Keep a smaller calendar with you to show your boss at work and explain THOSE days (in red) will be days you work from home pt. because you have a special needs son. You can also look into FMLA (family medical leave act) that will help you financially while you are trying to get your son in a better place either physcially or mentally. Also check into something called COBRA....not sure what it's about but something to do with stuff like you are going through I think...not sure. If you are good at typing - now that your office is set up? Put yourself on Craigslist for hire. Extra $$ HIGHLY recommend finding a local chapter of NAMI, Federation of Families, or some other Pro Parent organization to get support from. You need a friend.....a local friend to help. Check with Big Brothers and get on their list for your son. If he's going to school? Call an IEP meeting and GET HIM A MENTOR TODAY.......someone that will help KEEP him in school. Maybe like Dude - there is a Salvation Army or Goodwill or thrift store or church pantry or food pantry that he can volunteer at. THIS can keep his mind off of other things and gets HIM in with people networking for a job in his future. Hugs hon - I know this sounds harder than it is......but you need to just sit, write out positive things and negative things.....and give yourself credit for just being a totally burned out single Mom - dont' think you're BiPolar (BP) but DO get the "I MUST BE SOMETHING" because I've never fallen apart like this.....well honey - YOU ARE WORN OUT. And this ...is what worn out beyond all belief feels like. Start there by saying you DO do enough, and take little steps to improve the things that bother you THE MOST. Hugs Hugs Hugs Star [/QUOTE]
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