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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 161630" data-attributes="member: 805"><p>D,</p><p> </p><p>As someone who has been there, let me assure you that your children will survive, and will ultimately benefit, from you taking time for yourself. I agree with Witz - don't ask, just do. When he comes home from work, or wakes up Saturday morning etc., just say "I'm going out for awhile."</p><p> </p><p>I appears that you and your husband have been having trouble for several years. Is he still seeing another woman? Or, were you guys unable to mend what he did years ago?</p><p> </p><p>I can tell you that I was married for about the same amount of time you are when my bonehead and I seperated and ultimately divorced. He never takes the children. I believe he has had difficult child for two overnights since we seperated the summer of 2004!</p><p> </p><p>As you go through the divorce stuff, if that is where you actually head, you will need to agree upon the custody and visitation of the children. If your husband wants out of this marriage more than you, it benefits your needs. You demand that he take the children every Wed afternoon until after dinner, and every other weekend from Friday at 5 until Sunday at, say 3:00. </p><p> </p><p>My seperation period was pretty long, our divorce was not finalized until January. Bonehead was supposed to take the kids every third weekend but my kids were not interested anymore. Their dad has moved on to a honey half his age who lives with him and, while she is very nice to the kids, they are not really interested in leaving their space. Their father comes to see them every evening after work and sat evenings as well. So they see him on their own turf. A little in my face, but the kids love their dad so......</p><p> </p><p>I wish you strength. It's a tough time. I wonder if your son's psychiatrist or therapist can recommend some strong behavior mod programming for difficult child to make your home a little less stressful. Have you read The Explosive Child yet? That might be something you want to do if you've done it yet.</p><p> </p><p>Hugs.</p><p> </p><p>Sharon</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 161630, member: 805"] D, As someone who has been there, let me assure you that your children will survive, and will ultimately benefit, from you taking time for yourself. I agree with Witz - don't ask, just do. When he comes home from work, or wakes up Saturday morning etc., just say "I'm going out for awhile." I appears that you and your husband have been having trouble for several years. Is he still seeing another woman? Or, were you guys unable to mend what he did years ago? I can tell you that I was married for about the same amount of time you are when my bonehead and I seperated and ultimately divorced. He never takes the children. I believe he has had difficult child for two overnights since we seperated the summer of 2004! As you go through the divorce stuff, if that is where you actually head, you will need to agree upon the custody and visitation of the children. If your husband wants out of this marriage more than you, it benefits your needs. You demand that he take the children every Wed afternoon until after dinner, and every other weekend from Friday at 5 until Sunday at, say 3:00. My seperation period was pretty long, our divorce was not finalized until January. Bonehead was supposed to take the kids every third weekend but my kids were not interested anymore. Their dad has moved on to a honey half his age who lives with him and, while she is very nice to the kids, they are not really interested in leaving their space. Their father comes to see them every evening after work and sat evenings as well. So they see him on their own turf. A little in my face, but the kids love their dad so...... I wish you strength. It's a tough time. I wonder if your son's psychiatrist or therapist can recommend some strong behavior mod programming for difficult child to make your home a little less stressful. Have you read The Explosive Child yet? That might be something you want to do if you've done it yet. Hugs. Sharon [/QUOTE]
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