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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 701858" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>Rusty:</p><p></p><p>You are enabling her and it's not good for you and your husband <strong>nor your daughter</strong>. We think by letting them walk all over us we are helping them. We are not.</p><p></p><p>If she cannot follow the rules then she must move out. Tell your parents NOT to take her in. If they do, it's on them and they will eventually kick her out also.</p><p></p><p>Some of our adult children have to be FORCED to be adults for some reason. We have one of them too so I do get it. </p><p></p><p>If our son wasn't my husband's own flesh and blood (we both had a child from our first marriage when we got married) I know there is NO WAY he would have been able to tolerate what our son has done to our us/our home/our life.</p><p></p><p>I love my son but for the past five years, most of the time I have not liked him. I love him unconditionally but our relationship HAS CONDITIONS. </p><p></p><p>If your daughter wants to live in your home and cannot follow the rules, then she made the choice not to live there. I would not let your daughter rule the house, the TV etc. and that is exactly what she is doing.</p><p></p><p>Keep reading here and see what has worked for others. Enabling does not work. It may be the easy way out but not the best way.</p><p></p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/staystrong.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":staystrong:" title="staystrong :staystrong:" data-shortname=":staystrong:" /><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/notalone.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":notalone:" title="notalone :notalone:" data-shortname=":notalone:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 701858, member: 15032"] Rusty: You are enabling her and it's not good for you and your husband [B]nor your daughter[/B]. We think by letting them walk all over us we are helping them. We are not. If she cannot follow the rules then she must move out. Tell your parents NOT to take her in. If they do, it's on them and they will eventually kick her out also. Some of our adult children have to be FORCED to be adults for some reason. We have one of them too so I do get it. If our son wasn't my husband's own flesh and blood (we both had a child from our first marriage when we got married) I know there is NO WAY he would have been able to tolerate what our son has done to our us/our home/our life. I love my son but for the past five years, most of the time I have not liked him. I love him unconditionally but our relationship HAS CONDITIONS. If your daughter wants to live in your home and cannot follow the rules, then she made the choice not to live there. I would not let your daughter rule the house, the TV etc. and that is exactly what she is doing. Keep reading here and see what has worked for others. Enabling does not work. It may be the easy way out but not the best way. :staystrong::notalone: [/QUOTE]
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