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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 179769" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>I will ask Billy to come work with you on the virus aspect in a little bit.</p><p></p><p>As to the colors for the profile page...there is a website for any HTML color scheme challenged people.</p><p></p><p>This gives all the color codes for all the pretty colors. Or most of them. </p><p></p><p>Just plug in the color you like and hit the key to preview. </p><p></p><p>Now as far as the other issues. I learned some new techniques today in my DBT training that may be helpful. I say learned...well maybe I should say I was introduced to them. </p><p></p><p>I am going to write them out for you here and maybe you can get something out of them too.</p><p></p><p>Interpersonal Effectiveness SKills.</p><p></p><p><strong>F>A>S>T</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p>Self respect is the goal of this skill. This skill helps you balance investing in others and yourself.</p><p></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>F= <u>F</u>air to Self</strong></p><p><strong>A= <u>A</u>pologize less</strong></p><p><strong>s= <u>S</u>tick to Values</strong></p><p><strong>T= <u>T</u>ruthful with Self</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p>For maximizing self-respect, DBT recommends you be <strong> F</strong>air to yourself and the other person, avoid overdoing <strong> A</strong>pologies, <strong> S</strong>tick to your values without selling out, and be <strong> T</strong>ruthful about your needs and feelings (don't act helpless when you're not, or make up excuses).</p><p></p><p>Decide when FAST is useful in relationships and when it is not. Decide ways you can use FAST in your relationships.</p><p></p><p><strong>Distress Tolerance</strong></p><p></p><p></p><p><strong>Radical Acceptance</strong></p><p></p><p> The distraction techniques above offer the opportunity to change our experience for a least a brief respite from emotional pain, while we rebuild our strength. The dialectical balance to this emphasis on change is a powerful statement of the idea of acceptance as a way out of extreme distress. The concept of Radical Acceptance suggests that we suffer less if we let go of struggling with what is occurring. This does not mean that we endorse as 'good' what is going on, or that we never try to make changes in the long run. Radical Acceptance suggests that in this moment, what is happening is happening, whether we like it or not. Screaming about it in our mind will not help, but merely exhaust us. Acceptance mode is the fastest way out of pain; we save our strength until we can find a way to change the situation. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Basically Radical Acceptance is about acknowledging what you have control over and what you don't. You have control over your thoughts, feelings, impulses, and behaviors. You can influence and impact other people but you cant control them. You can influence and impact the environment but you cant change it. RA is sometimes misunderstood as resignation, approval and being passive. It is not; it is about investing your time in energy in what you can control: yourself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 179769, member: 1514"] I will ask Billy to come work with you on the virus aspect in a little bit. As to the colors for the profile page...there is a website for any HTML color scheme challenged people. This gives all the color codes for all the pretty colors. Or most of them. Just plug in the color you like and hit the key to preview. Now as far as the other issues. I learned some new techniques today in my DBT training that may be helpful. I say learned...well maybe I should say I was introduced to them. I am going to write them out for you here and maybe you can get something out of them too. Interpersonal Effectiveness SKills. [B]F>A>S>T [/B] Self respect is the goal of this skill. This skill helps you balance investing in others and yourself. [B] F= [U]F[/U]air to Self A= [U]A[/U]pologize less s= [U]S[/U]tick to Values T= [U]T[/U]ruthful with Self [/B] For maximizing self-respect, DBT recommends you be [B] F[/B]air to yourself and the other person, avoid overdoing [B] A[/B]pologies, [B] S[/B]tick to your values without selling out, and be [B] T[/B]ruthful about your needs and feelings (don't act helpless when you're not, or make up excuses). Decide when FAST is useful in relationships and when it is not. Decide ways you can use FAST in your relationships. [B]Distress Tolerance[/B] [B]Radical Acceptance[/B] The distraction techniques above offer the opportunity to change our experience for a least a brief respite from emotional pain, while we rebuild our strength. The dialectical balance to this emphasis on change is a powerful statement of the idea of acceptance as a way out of extreme distress. The concept of Radical Acceptance suggests that we suffer less if we let go of struggling with what is occurring. This does not mean that we endorse as 'good' what is going on, or that we never try to make changes in the long run. Radical Acceptance suggests that in this moment, what is happening is happening, whether we like it or not. Screaming about it in our mind will not help, but merely exhaust us. Acceptance mode is the fastest way out of pain; we save our strength until we can find a way to change the situation. Basically Radical Acceptance is about acknowledging what you have control over and what you don't. You have control over your thoughts, feelings, impulses, and behaviors. You can influence and impact other people but you cant control them. You can influence and impact the environment but you cant change it. RA is sometimes misunderstood as resignation, approval and being passive. It is not; it is about investing your time in energy in what you can control: yourself. [/QUOTE]
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