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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 177220" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>{{{Hugs}}} Nomad,</p><p></p><p>I don't understand why some women behave that way either.</p><p>Some people do seem to assume that if you take some time or trouble over your appearance, that you're rubbing their faces in their own shortcomings.</p><p></p><p>In a way, this is akin to our difficult children' behaviour when they blame their troubles on others. The effort you are taking with your appearance is highlighting someone else's discontent with theirs, and instead of doing something about it, they blame you. </p><p></p><p>This sort of thing used to happen to me a lot when husband and I first got together. He is quite a few years older than me and when we first started going to social events in his circle, the wives greeted me with great suspicion. Since I was Wife version 2.0, it was almost as though the other wives were afraid that I would either give their husbands idea about dumping them for younger women, or that I would be after all of their husbands too.</p><p></p><p>I found that the best thing was to just hold my head high and behave as though they were all welcoming me with open arms. If someone said something that could be interpreted either well or badly, I would always react as though they meant well. After a very short while they got tired of trying to set me up for a fall, and they started to get to know me. Now some of these women are very close friends. </p><p></p><p>Others are still b*tchy, but I react as though they're the sweetest women on earth. They may think I'm a bit of a bimbo for not "getting it", but they are getting the frustration of seeing their best catty comments miss the mark totally. And...the nicer ones are starting to see the others for who they really are.</p><p></p><p>Hold your head high and don't let them chase you away from church. You're not doing anything wrong, so don't let them make you behave as though you are. If you stop going to church, they will feel that they've won and some will assume that "where there's smoke, there's fire". </p><p></p><p>Sorry they're being so gnarly. Hope they see the light soon.</p><p>Trinity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 177220, member: 3907"] {{{Hugs}}} Nomad, I don't understand why some women behave that way either. Some people do seem to assume that if you take some time or trouble over your appearance, that you're rubbing their faces in their own shortcomings. In a way, this is akin to our difficult children' behaviour when they blame their troubles on others. The effort you are taking with your appearance is highlighting someone else's discontent with theirs, and instead of doing something about it, they blame you. This sort of thing used to happen to me a lot when husband and I first got together. He is quite a few years older than me and when we first started going to social events in his circle, the wives greeted me with great suspicion. Since I was Wife version 2.0, it was almost as though the other wives were afraid that I would either give their husbands idea about dumping them for younger women, or that I would be after all of their husbands too. I found that the best thing was to just hold my head high and behave as though they were all welcoming me with open arms. If someone said something that could be interpreted either well or badly, I would always react as though they meant well. After a very short while they got tired of trying to set me up for a fall, and they started to get to know me. Now some of these women are very close friends. Others are still b*tchy, but I react as though they're the sweetest women on earth. They may think I'm a bit of a bimbo for not "getting it", but they are getting the frustration of seeing their best catty comments miss the mark totally. And...the nicer ones are starting to see the others for who they really are. Hold your head high and don't let them chase you away from church. You're not doing anything wrong, so don't let them make you behave as though you are. If you stop going to church, they will feel that they've won and some will assume that "where there's smoke, there's fire". Sorry they're being so gnarly. Hope they see the light soon. Trinity [/QUOTE]
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