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Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS)/Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) parents - Would you adopt again?
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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 448324" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Hello BeachPeace. Such a hard question you have posed... There is nothing wrong with you "wanting to do it again" - and there's nothing to say that if you did adopt again, it would be the same. I know quite a few adopted children (adopted at the same time as my little difficult child - just the luck of the draw) who seem basically "normal" and pose no specific problems. To frame the question differently, would I change the child I have adopted, which is another secret, guilty question that we probably all have asked ourselves? Because I sense that nothing comes out of the blue, without sense or meaning or opportunity, I would have to say no. The child I have is the one that it is right for me to have. That said, it is hard to understand sometimes exactly why it is so hard a path (with also many joys) - but such a question is beyond rational answering in my humble opinion. Does having my difficult child constantly force me back to the drawing board, force me to look at myself and my past life and experiences in a deeper, more intense and radical way than having an easy child would? Yes. Is that good or bad? Don't know. But it forces me to be present to something.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 448324, member: 11227"] Hello BeachPeace. Such a hard question you have posed... There is nothing wrong with you "wanting to do it again" - and there's nothing to say that if you did adopt again, it would be the same. I know quite a few adopted children (adopted at the same time as my little difficult child - just the luck of the draw) who seem basically "normal" and pose no specific problems. To frame the question differently, would I change the child I have adopted, which is another secret, guilty question that we probably all have asked ourselves? Because I sense that nothing comes out of the blue, without sense or meaning or opportunity, I would have to say no. The child I have is the one that it is right for me to have. That said, it is hard to understand sometimes exactly why it is so hard a path (with also many joys) - but such a question is beyond rational answering in my humble opinion. Does having my difficult child constantly force me back to the drawing board, force me to look at myself and my past life and experiences in a deeper, more intense and radical way than having an easy child would? Yes. Is that good or bad? Don't know. But it forces me to be present to something. [/QUOTE]
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