There is an unsettling amount of people in my family tree, mostly male who committed suicide at an early age, this makes me feel like i need to try really hard to make sure my son does not join them.
I knew my son had big issues really early and kept taking him to the health nurses during tantrums so someone else could SEE what i was dealing with and that they went beyond the range of normal, but when we would get there he would act all cute. they tried to find me a pedatrition but we have a shortage and were unable to find one for me. i decided to wait for him to get thrown out of kindergarten so i could fight it and demand help as i was told teachers have better resources. thats exactly what happened within a week the school wanted to throw him out. i fought it and they got to work on testing him (to get him out of their hair).
it took 2 years and being kicked out of a second kindergarten before i had him in a school that has agreed not to expell him and has a good program for behavior modification. That department is great. The principal is not. She keeps threatening me with CPS over inane stuff. ex: if the kids dont have lunches the school buys subway which is much cooler then mums sammiches, upon finding my boys lunch hid i called his teacher, this became routine until i finally asked what are you feeding him when he hides his lunch...AHA...she agreed to stop feeding him subway and that solved the problem BUT a few days later the principal called me to scream at me and accuse me of not feeding my child (why she would think i would send 3 kids with lunches and starve one i dont know. she yelled so much i never got a word in.
After her most recent threat i thought about it , got angry and wrote a scathing letter threating to pull my kids from the school which finally got all the issues on the table and some attention as well as apologies. hopefully its sorted now and they know i wont tolerate being pushed around.
my boy has PUFF funding which pays for transportation, and his aides and therapists.
he was diagnosed by a team of occupational therapists, speach therapists and pyscologists working with his school. they began with the speach issues and then started looking towards ADHD (which my bro has) but it was ruled out and conduct disorder the end result. He has a lower then average iq (80) but i feel they are mistaken on that ...i think he manipulated them on that one he is much smarter then he lets on and i have told them so to deaf ears. the boy could defeat master locks i put on the fridge to keep him from waking up at night and tossing eggs everywhere at age 3~he is smart to the point it scares me so i dont buy the 80 iq! He is taken care of at school and given what he needs there but they have not gave me anything for the parenting end of it, which is what i need. I dont want to blow this, i want a good outcome.
