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Finding out this week if young difficult child will be released from prison...
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<blockquote data-quote="lovemysons" data-source="post: 549587" data-attributes="member: 3305"><p>Awww, thank you Recoveryingenabler!!! </p><p></p><p>Brief history...Both of my son's began using/abusing drugs or alcohol at around age's 13/14. Both were placed in Drug Rehab...Oldest was given worst prognosis after nearly 6 months of rehab, youngest given a chance. </p><p>Oldest went on to be involved with Meth and ended up stealing nearly 10k worth of computer equip from one of husband's clients. We were all able to work out a deal with the prosecutor to put oldest in Prison rehab. </p><p>He is now a hard working, law abiding, family man. He did spend a couple of years after prison abusing alcohol but has been sober nearly 2 yrs now. </p><p></p><p>Young difficult child married and went into the Army...his wife expecting their first baby, a boy. Young difficult child was given a General Discharge under Honorable conditions after around a yr and half in the Army. He did not fit in well and was abusing alcohol. </p><p>When he got out, he found out he has a heart condition and got a pacemaker put in. He then began abusing Pain medications. He lived (with his family...a son and daughter) at our home or daughter in law's mother's home or briefly in their own apt for, I think, the past 3 yrs. </p><p>Around 3 yrs ago, he decided to go "storm chasing" (he is a bit of an amateur meterologist) in Amarillo with his wife. He had been drinking and using benzo's...cut himself and his wife called 911. The ambulance came to the hotel they were staying at and took them to the hosptial. Young difficult child got angry that he was not being allowed to see his wife in the hospital. He ended up spitting at 2 police officers that were with him, sigh..</p><p>He got a deferred sentence of 2 Felony's called "Harrasement of a public servent". </p><p>And was also placed on probation. </p><p></p><p>Well...Young difficult child has barely worked since the Army discharged him. So probation fees were NOT being paid...not good. Then, last summer, while living at his mother in law's house, he got into an arguement/fight with his mother in law and was told to leave. husband and I went on a bowling tournament trip for our easy child at the same time and were not home. Young difficult child lived with friends for a few days and then apparently went back to his mother in law's home, drunk, and was angry and put his hand nearly throught the windsheild of his wifes car with 2 of their children in the back! </p><p>Well, this lead to an arrest and young difficult child was charged with "Reckless child endangerment"...that charge has since been dropped. However, because of the rearrest while on probation he violated his probation terms...that is why he was sent to prison and is there now. </p><p>Before Young difficult child was sent to prison...He got his wife pregnant AGAIN!!! </p><p>daughter in law delivered their 3rd baby in May. I was with her in the delivery room...another beautiful girl. So they have one boy and 2 girls. </p><p></p><p>To answer your other questions...</p><p>Yes, I do know of Sober Houses in our area and have phone numbers, know some of the requirements and costs associated. This certainly could be an option for young difficult child...but my understanding is that he must be sober for a period of time before they will accept him. And really, there is no reason for him to have to leave our house if he is walking the fine line and staying "dry". Sobriety comes from working the steps....and after yrs of AA and rehab only being a place to meet new friends, argue points, hang out....I don't think young difficult child has ever REALLY taken the program seriously since his middle days at drug rehab yrs and yrs ago. </p><p></p><p>The other element to this is that young difficult child suffers from anxiety and depression, like myself. I have been dxd with Bipolar Disorder in the past 5 yrs and young difficult child was dxd with it as well at around age 14 1/2. When he dxd the medications made him hallucinate...they just didn't have the same kind of medications that they have now. I take Abilify and have tried so hard to get young difficult child to admit to Dr's his REAL symptoms and his previous diagnosis....But he does not want to see himself as "mentally ill". <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p><p></p><p>None of us know what to expect...Young difficult child has been suicidal at least 3 or 4 times over the past several yrs. </p><p>He can be very difficult to get along with...he is not outgoing or particularly good at the social stuff like his older brother and husband are. He is made quite differently from both of them. </p><p></p><p>daughter in law and grandchildren are still living with her mother. daughter in law has shown very little interest in getting a job outside the home. Neither she nor young difficult child seem to have a "drive" or ambition. </p><p>It will be interesting to see if young difficult child will try to get a job...he did apply at UPS a couple of yrs ago and denied because of the "spitting" Felony charge. </p><p></p><p>Thank you so much for caring. </p><p>Hugs, </p><p>LMS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lovemysons, post: 549587, member: 3305"] Awww, thank you Recoveryingenabler!!! Brief history...Both of my son's began using/abusing drugs or alcohol at around age's 13/14. Both were placed in Drug Rehab...Oldest was given worst prognosis after nearly 6 months of rehab, youngest given a chance. Oldest went on to be involved with Meth and ended up stealing nearly 10k worth of computer equip from one of husband's clients. We were all able to work out a deal with the prosecutor to put oldest in Prison rehab. He is now a hard working, law abiding, family man. He did spend a couple of years after prison abusing alcohol but has been sober nearly 2 yrs now. Young difficult child married and went into the Army...his wife expecting their first baby, a boy. Young difficult child was given a General Discharge under Honorable conditions after around a yr and half in the Army. He did not fit in well and was abusing alcohol. When he got out, he found out he has a heart condition and got a pacemaker put in. He then began abusing Pain medications. He lived (with his family...a son and daughter) at our home or daughter in law's mother's home or briefly in their own apt for, I think, the past 3 yrs. Around 3 yrs ago, he decided to go "storm chasing" (he is a bit of an amateur meterologist) in Amarillo with his wife. He had been drinking and using benzo's...cut himself and his wife called 911. The ambulance came to the hotel they were staying at and took them to the hosptial. Young difficult child got angry that he was not being allowed to see his wife in the hospital. He ended up spitting at 2 police officers that were with him, sigh.. He got a deferred sentence of 2 Felony's called "Harrasement of a public servent". And was also placed on probation. Well...Young difficult child has barely worked since the Army discharged him. So probation fees were NOT being paid...not good. Then, last summer, while living at his mother in law's house, he got into an arguement/fight with his mother in law and was told to leave. husband and I went on a bowling tournament trip for our easy child at the same time and were not home. Young difficult child lived with friends for a few days and then apparently went back to his mother in law's home, drunk, and was angry and put his hand nearly throught the windsheild of his wifes car with 2 of their children in the back! Well, this lead to an arrest and young difficult child was charged with "Reckless child endangerment"...that charge has since been dropped. However, because of the rearrest while on probation he violated his probation terms...that is why he was sent to prison and is there now. Before Young difficult child was sent to prison...He got his wife pregnant AGAIN!!! daughter in law delivered their 3rd baby in May. I was with her in the delivery room...another beautiful girl. So they have one boy and 2 girls. To answer your other questions... Yes, I do know of Sober Houses in our area and have phone numbers, know some of the requirements and costs associated. This certainly could be an option for young difficult child...but my understanding is that he must be sober for a period of time before they will accept him. And really, there is no reason for him to have to leave our house if he is walking the fine line and staying "dry". Sobriety comes from working the steps....and after yrs of AA and rehab only being a place to meet new friends, argue points, hang out....I don't think young difficult child has ever REALLY taken the program seriously since his middle days at drug rehab yrs and yrs ago. The other element to this is that young difficult child suffers from anxiety and depression, like myself. I have been dxd with Bipolar Disorder in the past 5 yrs and young difficult child was dxd with it as well at around age 14 1/2. When he dxd the medications made him hallucinate...they just didn't have the same kind of medications that they have now. I take Abilify and have tried so hard to get young difficult child to admit to Dr's his REAL symptoms and his previous diagnosis....But he does not want to see himself as "mentally ill". :( None of us know what to expect...Young difficult child has been suicidal at least 3 or 4 times over the past several yrs. He can be very difficult to get along with...he is not outgoing or particularly good at the social stuff like his older brother and husband are. He is made quite differently from both of them. daughter in law and grandchildren are still living with her mother. daughter in law has shown very little interest in getting a job outside the home. Neither she nor young difficult child seem to have a "drive" or ambition. It will be interesting to see if young difficult child will try to get a job...he did apply at UPS a couple of yrs ago and denied because of the "spitting" Felony charge. Thank you so much for caring. Hugs, LMS [/QUOTE]
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