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<blockquote data-quote="lovemysons" data-source="post: 549640" data-attributes="member: 3305"><p>Thank you all so much for the caring responses...Does sound like many of you are currently or have been very very busy.</p><p></p><p>TL, I understand what you are saying about them being locked up vs on the streets. Honestly, I didn't realise your son was now on the streets I thought he was still at treatment facility? I am so sorry. I hope he starts to take an honest look at his life and the choices that have lead to this situation. I know you have tried so hard FOR him...over and over again I have read of you searching, finding, placing your son into various facilities/sober houses. I admire your persistance...and sadly, as we all learn along the way, it is their own will and what they do with it that ends up mattering most. I will pray that your son will stop letting the high get in the way of the help. </p><p></p><p>Pinevalley...I understand. I was just thinking about the anger you spoke of and how I don't really have alot of "anger" so to speak of now. I did at the onslot...in the beginning when they were young and this whole chasing a high thing started. I took it personally. I was angry that after all husband and I had sacrificed for them to give them what I thought was a wonderful childhood...that THIS was the repayment! </p><p>Today, my identity...who I am as a person and the effort and love I have put out as a mother, are not so tied into their behavior/choices. Now, I do have to watch my emotional well-being...I can really get disrought when suicidal behavior is involved...which has been my young difficult child's "thing"...sigh. </p><p>I hope and pray that your son will come "clean"...will admit to himself, to G-d, to another human being, what drug use has cost him, how it has harmed him and others...and then making ammends. </p><p>I think they MUST get fearlessly honest before they can begin healing and start over. </p><p>It is all AA stuff that I learned myself...but it DOES work. Prayer for your hurting heart too. </p><p></p><p>LOL about the Condo! Yes, husband and I are downsizing. We currently own a 5 bedroom home on the corner lot. Huge house...and not one we need at this point in our lives. We will move to a 3 bedroom most likely. </p><p>Young difficult child will move with us...assuming he is staying clean and being productive. </p><p></p><p>Sig...Thank you so much for your reply. Geez, you sound overworked!!! I hope your easy child's transition into college goes smoothly. It is so hard to see our easy child's leave and yet I am sure great things await him! </p><p>My easy child wrote both husband and I letters the night before she left for college 3 yrs ago. I keep mine in my wallet. It is a reminder that I did do SOMETHING right, lol, along the way. Our easy child's are surely missed though as they have brought so much joy into our lives. I also hope your difficult child will put down his pride at some point and get serious about his future. I think you are doing a really good job at letting go and letting your difficult child own his choices/facade....sigh. </p><p>But again...I have alot of faith in the outcome for your difficult child and your family. Hang in there! And stop working so darn hard!!! smile. </p><p></p><p>doggy, thank you for your reply...My sanity is/can be a fragile thing and I do protect it fiercely. I can never go back to being as emotionally strung out as I was in the past. It is a horrifically frightening thing to go psychotic...to be insane, to be hearing, seeing, even smelling hallucinatory things. My psychotic breakdown was like having a nightmare be in real life, reality. It was terrifying to me and others who saw what was happening. The Dr's have said that if I ever had another psychotic break...it would be "harder to bring me back". I have to be careful with my thought life and emotions. I do not push myself like I did for years and years anymore. I live life in more of a stroll than a race now. I simply have to...and living in the moment seems to keep me pretty stable. That, lol, and some great medicine!!!</p><p></p><p>Thank you all for caring and welcoming me back "home". </p><p>LMS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lovemysons, post: 549640, member: 3305"] Thank you all so much for the caring responses...Does sound like many of you are currently or have been very very busy. TL, I understand what you are saying about them being locked up vs on the streets. Honestly, I didn't realise your son was now on the streets I thought he was still at treatment facility? I am so sorry. I hope he starts to take an honest look at his life and the choices that have lead to this situation. I know you have tried so hard FOR him...over and over again I have read of you searching, finding, placing your son into various facilities/sober houses. I admire your persistance...and sadly, as we all learn along the way, it is their own will and what they do with it that ends up mattering most. I will pray that your son will stop letting the high get in the way of the help. Pinevalley...I understand. I was just thinking about the anger you spoke of and how I don't really have alot of "anger" so to speak of now. I did at the onslot...in the beginning when they were young and this whole chasing a high thing started. I took it personally. I was angry that after all husband and I had sacrificed for them to give them what I thought was a wonderful childhood...that THIS was the repayment! Today, my identity...who I am as a person and the effort and love I have put out as a mother, are not so tied into their behavior/choices. Now, I do have to watch my emotional well-being...I can really get disrought when suicidal behavior is involved...which has been my young difficult child's "thing"...sigh. I hope and pray that your son will come "clean"...will admit to himself, to G-d, to another human being, what drug use has cost him, how it has harmed him and others...and then making ammends. I think they MUST get fearlessly honest before they can begin healing and start over. It is all AA stuff that I learned myself...but it DOES work. Prayer for your hurting heart too. LOL about the Condo! Yes, husband and I are downsizing. We currently own a 5 bedroom home on the corner lot. Huge house...and not one we need at this point in our lives. We will move to a 3 bedroom most likely. Young difficult child will move with us...assuming he is staying clean and being productive. Sig...Thank you so much for your reply. Geez, you sound overworked!!! I hope your easy child's transition into college goes smoothly. It is so hard to see our easy child's leave and yet I am sure great things await him! My easy child wrote both husband and I letters the night before she left for college 3 yrs ago. I keep mine in my wallet. It is a reminder that I did do SOMETHING right, lol, along the way. Our easy child's are surely missed though as they have brought so much joy into our lives. I also hope your difficult child will put down his pride at some point and get serious about his future. I think you are doing a really good job at letting go and letting your difficult child own his choices/facade....sigh. But again...I have alot of faith in the outcome for your difficult child and your family. Hang in there! And stop working so darn hard!!! smile. doggy, thank you for your reply...My sanity is/can be a fragile thing and I do protect it fiercely. I can never go back to being as emotionally strung out as I was in the past. It is a horrifically frightening thing to go psychotic...to be insane, to be hearing, seeing, even smelling hallucinatory things. My psychotic breakdown was like having a nightmare be in real life, reality. It was terrifying to me and others who saw what was happening. The Dr's have said that if I ever had another psychotic break...it would be "harder to bring me back". I have to be careful with my thought life and emotions. I do not push myself like I did for years and years anymore. I live life in more of a stroll than a race now. I simply have to...and living in the moment seems to keep me pretty stable. That, lol, and some great medicine!!! Thank you all for caring and welcoming me back "home". LMS [/QUOTE]
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