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First Post: 23 year old Daughter Drains Our Bank and Driving Us Crazy
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 712308" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am BEGGING you to change every single lock on your home. BEGGING you. That locking file cabinet is NOT secure. PLEASE secure your entire property so that WHEN she decides to drop in again to get more information, it is clearly a break in and not a 'visit'. </p><p></p><p>Do not forget to protect your information. Go and run a credit check NOW. I mean as soon as you read this. Selling your information or opening up credit cards in your name and using them is incredibly easy and would be right up her alley. Also check your other daughter's name because that sounds especially like something she would do. Check all 3 credit bureaus and then see how bad the situation is and figure out what, if anything, you need to do. Run those reports at least yearly because this will occur to her at some point. Or to her friend.</p><p></p><p>I know you love her, but you cannot trust her even one tiny bit. If her mouth is moving, she is lying. If she is communicating, she is lying (most communication is nonverbal). Actions show people who we are. Your daughter is SCREAMING at you with her actions, but you are not getting it. She isn't the sweet little girl that you took to lessons and gave a good life to. She has chosen to live a life of crime. You cannot protect her from it. All you can do it chose to let her see the consequences of her actions. </p><p></p><p>Consequences are incredibly important. They are how we learn. If she will steal $3500 from you, she will steal a lot more from a stranger. Sooner or later someone is going to either put her in prison for a very long time or they are going to hurt her for taking something that isn't hers. It may be kinder in the long run for you to press charges for what she steals from you . </p><p></p><p>I don't know who handles your older daughter's finances, if she is able to handle her own money. If your younger daughter has stolen her identity and destroyed her credit, you may have to investigate to see if she has taken advantage in other ways. I am sorry to have to suggest this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 712308, member: 1233"] I am BEGGING you to change every single lock on your home. BEGGING you. That locking file cabinet is NOT secure. PLEASE secure your entire property so that WHEN she decides to drop in again to get more information, it is clearly a break in and not a 'visit'. Do not forget to protect your information. Go and run a credit check NOW. I mean as soon as you read this. Selling your information or opening up credit cards in your name and using them is incredibly easy and would be right up her alley. Also check your other daughter's name because that sounds especially like something she would do. Check all 3 credit bureaus and then see how bad the situation is and figure out what, if anything, you need to do. Run those reports at least yearly because this will occur to her at some point. Or to her friend. I know you love her, but you cannot trust her even one tiny bit. If her mouth is moving, she is lying. If she is communicating, she is lying (most communication is nonverbal). Actions show people who we are. Your daughter is SCREAMING at you with her actions, but you are not getting it. She isn't the sweet little girl that you took to lessons and gave a good life to. She has chosen to live a life of crime. You cannot protect her from it. All you can do it chose to let her see the consequences of her actions. Consequences are incredibly important. They are how we learn. If she will steal $3500 from you, she will steal a lot more from a stranger. Sooner or later someone is going to either put her in prison for a very long time or they are going to hurt her for taking something that isn't hers. It may be kinder in the long run for you to press charges for what she steals from you . I don't know who handles your older daughter's finances, if she is able to handle her own money. If your younger daughter has stolen her identity and destroyed her credit, you may have to investigate to see if she has taken advantage in other ways. I am sorry to have to suggest this. [/QUOTE]
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