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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 556704" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>Well, I happen to like my 19-year-old son much more when he lives 3 hours away... Though right now I'm just heartached because his struggles and how difficult time he is having and how devastated he is right now. But in general I do believe that it helps with relationships between parents and their young adult children, if they don't live together. </p><p></p><p>Your son is in transitioning age and you don't want him to get stuck. It is perfectly understandable for you to ask him to have a plan over this time. Ask his grades and make it clear, that you are willing to let him live with you (with certain rules) while he goes to school and some transitioning time after that. But you are not willing to let him play eternal teenager on your house. So he has to prove he goes to school, he has to follow house rules etc. or he has to find his own place.</p><p></p><p>His girlfriend is probably a big reason why he is getting stuck. If he is not sure about his career path etc. (and that is perfectly normal in that age) any kind of program that would get him out of home town and have new experiences would be great. Maybe after they break up? Or if the girlfriend would encourage him? Some kind of career counselling could also be good. It is really difficult to transfer from childhood to adulthood and few do it without any struggles. But still enabling him to get stuck isn't a good idea, but it is better to help him to take next steps. He will still need your emotional (and maybe also financial, if you can do that) support and that is perfectly normal. But you want him moving forward.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 556704, member: 14557"] Well, I happen to like my 19-year-old son much more when he lives 3 hours away... Though right now I'm just heartached because his struggles and how difficult time he is having and how devastated he is right now. But in general I do believe that it helps with relationships between parents and their young adult children, if they don't live together. Your son is in transitioning age and you don't want him to get stuck. It is perfectly understandable for you to ask him to have a plan over this time. Ask his grades and make it clear, that you are willing to let him live with you (with certain rules) while he goes to school and some transitioning time after that. But you are not willing to let him play eternal teenager on your house. So he has to prove he goes to school, he has to follow house rules etc. or he has to find his own place. His girlfriend is probably a big reason why he is getting stuck. If he is not sure about his career path etc. (and that is perfectly normal in that age) any kind of program that would get him out of home town and have new experiences would be great. Maybe after they break up? Or if the girlfriend would encourage him? Some kind of career counselling could also be good. It is really difficult to transfer from childhood to adulthood and few do it without any struggles. But still enabling him to get stuck isn't a good idea, but it is better to help him to take next steps. He will still need your emotional (and maybe also financial, if you can do that) support and that is perfectly normal. But you want him moving forward. [/QUOTE]
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