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First Time Posting: Kicked son out and I just don't think I can handle this!
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 470731" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Bluntly put...your son is an alcoholic.</p><p></p><p>Until he quits drinking and drugs (if he also does drugs) he is not going to complete school, he is not going to be able to hold a job, he is not going to respect you, he is not going to grow up (addiction retards emotional growth). You have given him a hundred chances. If you do it again, he will do the same thing he has always done. </p><p></p><p>If you did go to Al-Anon, they would probably warn you NOT to give him any money. None. He can apply for welfare or disability and food share. If you give him money, he will spend it on alcohol. If you buy him a car, one day he will crack it up and maybe kill himself. My drug-using daughter managed to total THREE cars. We bought her one. Her brother bought her one (I warned him not to). Then she bought one herself after working and got into another accident after drinking. She had to pay the woman she hit $15,000. It took her forever to pay it off. We did not help her. She was still paying long after she quit using drugs.</p><p></p><p>Enabling a substance abuser does not bring good results either to the abuser or the rest of the family. If you can slip away even for one meeting a week, Al-Anon is fantastic!</p><p></p><p>Good luck!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 470731, member: 1550"] Bluntly put...your son is an alcoholic. Until he quits drinking and drugs (if he also does drugs) he is not going to complete school, he is not going to be able to hold a job, he is not going to respect you, he is not going to grow up (addiction retards emotional growth). You have given him a hundred chances. If you do it again, he will do the same thing he has always done. If you did go to Al-Anon, they would probably warn you NOT to give him any money. None. He can apply for welfare or disability and food share. If you give him money, he will spend it on alcohol. If you buy him a car, one day he will crack it up and maybe kill himself. My drug-using daughter managed to total THREE cars. We bought her one. Her brother bought her one (I warned him not to). Then she bought one herself after working and got into another accident after drinking. She had to pay the woman she hit $15,000. It took her forever to pay it off. We did not help her. She was still paying long after she quit using drugs. Enabling a substance abuser does not bring good results either to the abuser or the rest of the family. If you can slip away even for one meeting a week, Al-Anon is fantastic! Good luck! [/QUOTE]
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