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FOO bad affects on our own children...did it happen?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 674347" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Well, Leafie, no matter how hard we try, and you and I a nd the rest of us here DID try or we wouldn't even realize we made mistakes (I think my mother thought she parented well, even though she didn't)...I digress, we all make parenting mistakes. Every single one of us. I think intent is the issue.</p><p></p><p>My mother truly intended to hurt me with what she said and did. So did the others in my FOO.</p><p></p><p>That's the difference in my opinion. Intent and willingness to apologize and own up to our mistakes to our loved ones. Never once has anyone in my FOO said to me, "Pam, I'm sorry for...." and all of them had plenty to apologize for. But they never felt they made mistakes. I know I did, and they'd agree if I said so...lol. But they never said "I'm sorry. MAYBE I was wrong." Nope. Only pointed fingers elsewhere.</p><p></p><p>Intent, intent, intent and willingness to see your own flaws too. And to admit them if necessary.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 674347, member: 1550"] Well, Leafie, no matter how hard we try, and you and I a nd the rest of us here DID try or we wouldn't even realize we made mistakes (I think my mother thought she parented well, even though she didn't)...I digress, we all make parenting mistakes. Every single one of us. I think intent is the issue. My mother truly intended to hurt me with what she said and did. So did the others in my FOO. That's the difference in my opinion. Intent and willingness to apologize and own up to our mistakes to our loved ones. Never once has anyone in my FOO said to me, "Pam, I'm sorry for...." and all of them had plenty to apologize for. But they never felt they made mistakes. I know I did, and they'd agree if I said so...lol. But they never said "I'm sorry. MAYBE I was wrong." Nope. Only pointed fingers elsewhere. Intent, intent, intent and willingness to see your own flaws too. And to admit them if necessary. [/QUOTE]
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