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FOO bad affects on our own children...did it happen?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 674396" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Cedar, in a strange way, although your family was definitely a mess, at least your family did try to get together for holidays, right? I could never had thought of "that family dinner." Mother wasn't much of a cook (I copied her here). We didn't get together for holidays unless it was done and I wasn't told, so I didn't dream of that dinner with MY FOO. We just were so fractured that I couldn't even dream of a warm, cozy family dinner. It would not have been possible, even in my imagination.</p><p></p><p>At least your family did not do shunning. Well, they did, but not to the extent mine did; to the point where people were literally kicked out of the family by certain member. At least, I don't recall that this happened. Correct me if I forgot...</p><p></p><p>It was easier not to fantasize that dinner, in a way, when it never ever happened in the first place. My FOO did not let bygones be byfones just because it was holiday time, not even for a night. Add to that, we were Jewish so we didn't do Christmas and never celebrated Hannukah in a festive way either. We just lit candles and then forgot about it the rest of the day.No extended family coming for a party. No extra good food. It is easier to forget what you never had...at least, I t hink so.</p><p></p><p>by the way, Happy Hannukah to Copa <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 674396, member: 1550"] Cedar, in a strange way, although your family was definitely a mess, at least your family did try to get together for holidays, right? I could never had thought of "that family dinner." Mother wasn't much of a cook (I copied her here). We didn't get together for holidays unless it was done and I wasn't told, so I didn't dream of that dinner with MY FOO. We just were so fractured that I couldn't even dream of a warm, cozy family dinner. It would not have been possible, even in my imagination. At least your family did not do shunning. Well, they did, but not to the extent mine did; to the point where people were literally kicked out of the family by certain member. At least, I don't recall that this happened. Correct me if I forgot... It was easier not to fantasize that dinner, in a way, when it never ever happened in the first place. My FOO did not let bygones be byfones just because it was holiday time, not even for a night. Add to that, we were Jewish so we didn't do Christmas and never celebrated Hannukah in a festive way either. We just lit candles and then forgot about it the rest of the day.No extended family coming for a party. No extra good food. It is easier to forget what you never had...at least, I t hink so. by the way, Happy Hannukah to Copa :) [/QUOTE]
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