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Mom? What's a difficult child?
Well my father in law's "surprise" 60th Birthday party is the first week of April... (his real b-day was in Jan) So we tried to get out of it... it is in Chicago. This is basically the one thing "I" could do that would really ruin the relationship between mother in law and us. SO we are forced to go, despite both of our chldren being very unstable right now.
I wrote to my mother in law and let her know I was doing everything I could to get difficult child stable prior to the party so we could make it, but if all else failed, maybe easy child and husband could go as a last resort? I also asked her that since the kids are so volatile could we say we were seeing our psychiatrist the day of the party and stay at thier house and show up a day early? There is no way we could fly across country and go to a party the same evening without a manic episode or psychotic blowup!!!
She would not even aknowledge the subject of husband and easy child showing, merely said well I really was hoping for the girl's to show up at the party and surprise Grandpa... but I guess this will have to do.
WTF!!! Am I making this a big deal??? I would have thought a "Gee thanks for the fricken effort, I know this is going to be tough on you guy's I am just glad you are coming"... Nothing
And now she is trying to plan all this stuff while we are there, like the girls will ride some stupid cart that she bought him into the huge party and present it to him... I was thinking poor difficult child is so anxious right now and will be on sensory overload, I don't want to put any demands on her... If it happens great, but mother in law will be all over her pushing her...
So I "ordered" husband to talk to his Mother this week while he is home... He agrees with me, somewhat. Of course he hates being in the middle, but his mom and I can no longer talk really about this stuff. SHe freaks out and I get pissed.
The only good part is we are leaving from there house in Chi. and going to check out some warm weather in Tucson for a few days after at their house. They have begged us to use it for a few years and we are going to finally.
I just wanted to show up to this party and try to have a good time and try to help the kids stay stable... is that to much to ask. She claims she gets it...she is also trying to make plans for a big Easter... I already warned her for the hundredth time about the sugar and dyes...
Sorry I guess I needed to vent...
On the other hand difficult child is doing OK on Abilify... we are doing 1mg in am and 2mg in pm. Moving up real slow and then we will add a mood stabilizer.
Thanks for listening
I wrote to my mother in law and let her know I was doing everything I could to get difficult child stable prior to the party so we could make it, but if all else failed, maybe easy child and husband could go as a last resort? I also asked her that since the kids are so volatile could we say we were seeing our psychiatrist the day of the party and stay at thier house and show up a day early? There is no way we could fly across country and go to a party the same evening without a manic episode or psychotic blowup!!!
She would not even aknowledge the subject of husband and easy child showing, merely said well I really was hoping for the girl's to show up at the party and surprise Grandpa... but I guess this will have to do.
WTF!!! Am I making this a big deal??? I would have thought a "Gee thanks for the fricken effort, I know this is going to be tough on you guy's I am just glad you are coming"... Nothing
And now she is trying to plan all this stuff while we are there, like the girls will ride some stupid cart that she bought him into the huge party and present it to him... I was thinking poor difficult child is so anxious right now and will be on sensory overload, I don't want to put any demands on her... If it happens great, but mother in law will be all over her pushing her...
So I "ordered" husband to talk to his Mother this week while he is home... He agrees with me, somewhat. Of course he hates being in the middle, but his mom and I can no longer talk really about this stuff. SHe freaks out and I get pissed.
The only good part is we are leaving from there house in Chi. and going to check out some warm weather in Tucson for a few days after at their house. They have begged us to use it for a few years and we are going to finally.
I just wanted to show up to this party and try to have a good time and try to help the kids stay stable... is that to much to ask. She claims she gets it...she is also trying to make plans for a big Easter... I already warned her for the hundredth time about the sugar and dyes...
Sorry I guess I needed to vent...
On the other hand difficult child is doing OK on Abilify... we are doing 1mg in am and 2mg in pm. Moving up real slow and then we will add a mood stabilizer.
Thanks for listening