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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 87584" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>When I was pregnant with my first child, I had dreams. I didn't know if I was having a boy or a girl and it didn't matter. My child was going to be a genius, grow up to be a doctor or lawyer (preferably a doctor) and we wealthy, happy and successful.</p><p></p><p>My daughter was very tiny. Thanks to a brilliant doctor, she was not too premature and didn't need intensive care. She turned out to be very bright (genius? It depends) who chose to not study medicine (impossible to get into at the moment - too few uni places) but still got into the health industry, in a job she loves. She's not married, she's overweight, she's living with her boyfriend but she is HAPPY. It's been a struggle for her, simply having to cope with a family loaded with disability (which all hit after she was born).</p><p></p><p>After that we revised our requirement to: we want our kids to grow up to be independent, happy, functioning and productive members of society.</p><p>easy child is there already. difficult child 1 is getting there, but taking a lot longer. Same with easy child 2/difficult child 2 - she has quite a way to go. Both of them have unrealistic reasons for thinking and aiming for what they currently are aiming for. I do worry about what happens when their dream comes crashing down.</p><p></p><p>difficult child 3 - I think he's going to make it. I don't know how dependent he will remain, only time will tell. He may always need a carer, but we are doing what we can to make him as independent as possible.</p><p></p><p>The best you can be, is to be the best you can be. You can't ask for more than that.</p><p></p><p>At least I got the "genius" part of my wish list! But I discovered, it only makes them MORE frustrated with their limitations!</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 87584, member: 1991"] When I was pregnant with my first child, I had dreams. I didn't know if I was having a boy or a girl and it didn't matter. My child was going to be a genius, grow up to be a doctor or lawyer (preferably a doctor) and we wealthy, happy and successful. My daughter was very tiny. Thanks to a brilliant doctor, she was not too premature and didn't need intensive care. She turned out to be very bright (genius? It depends) who chose to not study medicine (impossible to get into at the moment - too few uni places) but still got into the health industry, in a job she loves. She's not married, she's overweight, she's living with her boyfriend but she is HAPPY. It's been a struggle for her, simply having to cope with a family loaded with disability (which all hit after she was born). After that we revised our requirement to: we want our kids to grow up to be independent, happy, functioning and productive members of society. easy child is there already. difficult child 1 is getting there, but taking a lot longer. Same with easy child 2/difficult child 2 - she has quite a way to go. Both of them have unrealistic reasons for thinking and aiming for what they currently are aiming for. I do worry about what happens when their dream comes crashing down. difficult child 3 - I think he's going to make it. I don't know how dependent he will remain, only time will tell. He may always need a carer, but we are doing what we can to make him as independent as possible. The best you can be, is to be the best you can be. You can't ask for more than that. At least I got the "genius" part of my wish list! But I discovered, it only makes them MORE frustrated with their limitations! Marg [/QUOTE]
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