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Found odd stuff in son's room: straws, coffee mug and saucer, solvent-soaked kleenex
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<blockquote data-quote="recovering doormat" data-source="post: 216954" data-attributes="member: 5941"><p>Good suggestions. He does need blood work and perhaps the hair test to see what is in his system.</p><p> </p><p>His older sister, who lives with him and my ex, pooh-poohed the idea that he is snorting anything. She told me that some months ago he crushed up a Zyrtec and attempted to sell it as cocaine to an unsuspecting teen. The odd tool that my ex foundin the friend's backpack most likely was used as part of a bong. </p><p> </p><p>Which brings me to the real trauma of my son's drug use, which is the sneaky, antisocial, anti-family behavior that drug users sooner or later exhibit: attempting to cheat an unsuspecting kid with a faux drug, stealing the occasional $20 out of my wallet, and most recently, my jewelry is missing and so are hundreds of dollars of unrolled coin that my ex kept for a rainy day. My younger daughter can't find her Ipod and she thinks her brother stole it to trade for weed. We can't prove any of this (the theft of coin is most likely our son, since he lives with-my ex and knew about the enormous plastic jug full of quarters, and he attempted to take a butter cookie tin full of loose change to school not long ago and was confronted by dad).</p><p> </p><p>We go to court Tuesday and my fear is that he isgoing to get a slap on the wrist for the misdemeanor drug charge (cops found several tiny plastic ziplock bags that one held marijuana but were empty when discovered, plus he had run away from his dad's house and entered mine with-o permission to avoid going to school). </p><p> </p><p>He needs some kind of therapeutic approach to get him to stop using weed to self-medicate his anxiety, and long-term work on his issues. The ed consultant I hired last summer recommended a wilderness program in the Adirondacks, but unless it is court ordered I can't imagine him going willingly, which means the trauma of an "escort" agency (burly guys who break into your son's bedroom at 4 a.m. and drag him downstairs and into a waiting car), and he would be camping outdoors in upstate NY in December and January. they actually make the kids strip naked outdoors and give them their new clothes to put on while they are standing barefoot in the snow. At night their shoes are taken away to discourage runaways. Kids stay at these places anywhere from 4 to 8 weeks, sometime longer if they don't get with the program, then to a therapeutic boarding school that usually uses some kind of 12 step program to break the kid down and reprogram them. </p><p> </p><p>There has got to be something better but I haven't found it yet. In the meantime, I have a glimpse at the private and public hell that parents of drug-involved kids live in. I never thought I would be here, at least not with this child. My older daughter dabbled as an angry high school freshman and sophomore furious with her parents for divorcing, but my son seemed more timid, and has a touch of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) in that he can't stand disorder, dirt or clutter, and seemed to need to be in control of his body. He worried about contaminating himself, so I thought he would be safe. I hadn't banked on him finding out what a great anxiety reliever cannabis is, better than Zoloft or Risperadal or Buspar or anything else we've made him swallow as a ten or 11 yr old.</p><p> </p><p>How does one find the right Rx for a kid using drugs - I've spoken to parents of kids who did well in these kind of mind-control schools and camps. In fact one dad told me his daughter was almost "too good," which raised a red flag to me. She had been doing really crazy stuff, hard drugs, breaking into peoples homes and stealign jewelry -- now she's graduated *** laude from a prestigious university and living independently with a career. Normal as pie. </p><p> </p><p>Okay, got to put on my calm, sociable face and go have lunch with-my mom and sister in laws, part of our Thanksgiving weekend tradition. I just want to curl up on the couch with a pillow and blanket and shut out the world.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recovering doormat, post: 216954, member: 5941"] Good suggestions. He does need blood work and perhaps the hair test to see what is in his system. His older sister, who lives with him and my ex, pooh-poohed the idea that he is snorting anything. She told me that some months ago he crushed up a Zyrtec and attempted to sell it as cocaine to an unsuspecting teen. The odd tool that my ex foundin the friend's backpack most likely was used as part of a bong. Which brings me to the real trauma of my son's drug use, which is the sneaky, antisocial, anti-family behavior that drug users sooner or later exhibit: attempting to cheat an unsuspecting kid with a faux drug, stealing the occasional $20 out of my wallet, and most recently, my jewelry is missing and so are hundreds of dollars of unrolled coin that my ex kept for a rainy day. My younger daughter can't find her Ipod and she thinks her brother stole it to trade for weed. We can't prove any of this (the theft of coin is most likely our son, since he lives with-my ex and knew about the enormous plastic jug full of quarters, and he attempted to take a butter cookie tin full of loose change to school not long ago and was confronted by dad). We go to court Tuesday and my fear is that he isgoing to get a slap on the wrist for the misdemeanor drug charge (cops found several tiny plastic ziplock bags that one held marijuana but were empty when discovered, plus he had run away from his dad's house and entered mine with-o permission to avoid going to school). He needs some kind of therapeutic approach to get him to stop using weed to self-medicate his anxiety, and long-term work on his issues. The ed consultant I hired last summer recommended a wilderness program in the Adirondacks, but unless it is court ordered I can't imagine him going willingly, which means the trauma of an "escort" agency (burly guys who break into your son's bedroom at 4 a.m. and drag him downstairs and into a waiting car), and he would be camping outdoors in upstate NY in December and January. they actually make the kids strip naked outdoors and give them their new clothes to put on while they are standing barefoot in the snow. At night their shoes are taken away to discourage runaways. Kids stay at these places anywhere from 4 to 8 weeks, sometime longer if they don't get with the program, then to a therapeutic boarding school that usually uses some kind of 12 step program to break the kid down and reprogram them. There has got to be something better but I haven't found it yet. In the meantime, I have a glimpse at the private and public hell that parents of drug-involved kids live in. I never thought I would be here, at least not with this child. My older daughter dabbled as an angry high school freshman and sophomore furious with her parents for divorcing, but my son seemed more timid, and has a touch of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) in that he can't stand disorder, dirt or clutter, and seemed to need to be in control of his body. He worried about contaminating himself, so I thought he would be safe. I hadn't banked on him finding out what a great anxiety reliever cannabis is, better than Zoloft or Risperadal or Buspar or anything else we've made him swallow as a ten or 11 yr old. How does one find the right Rx for a kid using drugs - I've spoken to parents of kids who did well in these kind of mind-control schools and camps. In fact one dad told me his daughter was almost "too good," which raised a red flag to me. She had been doing really crazy stuff, hard drugs, breaking into peoples homes and stealign jewelry -- now she's graduated *** laude from a prestigious university and living independently with a career. Normal as pie. Okay, got to put on my calm, sociable face and go have lunch with-my mom and sister in laws, part of our Thanksgiving weekend tradition. I just want to curl up on the couch with a pillow and blanket and shut out the world. [/QUOTE]
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