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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 755336" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>My thoughts are that some people are loners and don't enjoy hanging out with other people. This is not a problem for most. They have pets or one SO or home hobbies and maybe have a therapist to talk to if necessary. I have two siblings who are loners and never like hosting family affairs and their social lives are mainly their family. Both work, take walks and one paints by the ocean. Alone. The other does play cards at the senior center but does not invite people over or out for coffee. I don't think everyone enjoys people and those of us who do don't understand the solitude.I had to learn by talking to my siblings. To them people are stressful and full of drama. Which can be true.</p><p></p><p>I am self conscious about being so thin. It's not an attractive thin at all. I don't like gyms. I have equipment at home. That is where I feel safe wearing my work out clothes. But I get tons of socializing at work. So there is that. Plus my husband and I have a circle of friends we see a few times a month. It is enough for us.</p><p></p><p>I always feel, at least these days, that we need to respect everyone else and not project our own preferences on them. We may not understand them and they may not understand us, but each person is an individual. I have given up trying to figure out somebody else's brain! The "why" is not ours to know.</p><p></p><p>The only time I set boundaries toward how others behave is when they want to do illegal or offensive acts around me. </p><p></p><p>Your son moved far away. So did my daughter. Why? Who knows. Neither of them are so lonely that they stayed by family. They are who they are.</p><p></p><p>Worrying will not make our kids get/stay sober or be happy. The person whom worry impacts is us. Our kids don't benefit nor care. </p><p></p><p>My two cents is to support your son as he is and in ways that he allows. There is nothing else either of us can do for our kids. I don't understand my daughter, who had every advantage, any more than you understand your son.</p><p></p><p>We can get through this. Rejoice that for now your son is doing better. It's these moments we can cherish.</p><p></p><p>Blessings.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 755336, member: 23706"] My thoughts are that some people are loners and don't enjoy hanging out with other people. This is not a problem for most. They have pets or one SO or home hobbies and maybe have a therapist to talk to if necessary. I have two siblings who are loners and never like hosting family affairs and their social lives are mainly their family. Both work, take walks and one paints by the ocean. Alone. The other does play cards at the senior center but does not invite people over or out for coffee. I don't think everyone enjoys people and those of us who do don't understand the solitude.I had to learn by talking to my siblings. To them people are stressful and full of drama. Which can be true. I am self conscious about being so thin. It's not an attractive thin at all. I don't like gyms. I have equipment at home. That is where I feel safe wearing my work out clothes. But I get tons of socializing at work. So there is that. Plus my husband and I have a circle of friends we see a few times a month. It is enough for us. I always feel, at least these days, that we need to respect everyone else and not project our own preferences on them. We may not understand them and they may not understand us, but each person is an individual. I have given up trying to figure out somebody else's brain! The "why" is not ours to know. The only time I set boundaries toward how others behave is when they want to do illegal or offensive acts around me. Your son moved far away. So did my daughter. Why? Who knows. Neither of them are so lonely that they stayed by family. They are who they are. Worrying will not make our kids get/stay sober or be happy. The person whom worry impacts is us. Our kids don't benefit nor care. My two cents is to support your son as he is and in ways that he allows. There is nothing else either of us can do for our kids. I don't understand my daughter, who had every advantage, any more than you understand your son. We can get through this. Rejoice that for now your son is doing better. It's these moments we can cherish. Blessings. [/QUOTE]
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