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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 336246" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Hi Ya Queenie! </p><p></p><p>Welcome to the Board & Family! </p><p></p><p>Raising an ecnopretic child with ODD and Anger issues who is suspected of being Bipolar NOT MUCH FUN. Throw in loosing all the male influences in his life at different critical growth stages and genetic mish-mosh? Welcome to my world and then some. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> Fortunately for us now? My son is 19 and no longer has those issues but it's been a really long road and a lot of severely intense therapy, anger management, and taught coping skills that did not sink in immediately. I think a lot of the things he learned from Residential Treatment Center (RTC) staff and therapists didn't really hit him until he was much older. Defiance still pays a price even when it's in the least restrictive environment. - UGH. </p><p></p><p>Tough love seems to be the best teacher and detaching as a parent, but you feel so incredibly guilty because you already feel like life has dealt them a bad hand and then YOU have to go and be tough on top of things when you are supposed to be the one person they can turn to when life is falling apart. Raising children like ours is not for the weak of spirit. That's why it's a good thing to come here and have support and know that you are not the only crazy Mom in the whole world. Was I afraid of my child? Yeah. Scared to death of him. Were other people? Heck yeah. Would our own family therapist have spent a night in my house? NO WAY IN HADES. And that comment got him put into a locked psychiatric hospital where he could be observed and evaluated for longer and NOT come home and be a danger to us. </p><p></p><p>He's 19 now, and if I told you our sad little story well - it's ours, and it's sad, and it's incredible I have any hair left. Him too I guess. lol. Snatch that child bald headed - <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/surprise.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":surprise:" title="surprise :surprise:" data-shortname=":surprise:" /> (just kidding.........no I am not) But he's 19 now....a convicted felon, living at home and finally FINALLY doing okay. (Says thanks be to God) There ARE programs where you can put children that are a danger to themselves and others. You just have to rattle and be the squeeky wheel. </p><p></p><p>I'm not sure where you are......but if he's that dangerous and you're really afraid for him to come home to be around your other children, you can start with your local DSS or Mental health and see if there are programs available. Call your governors office and tell them that you have a child that is very unstable .....you need help - what do they suggest? There are also groups like NAMI - National Alliance for the Mentally Ill in every state that can usually point you in the right direction. SOmetimes there are Federation of Families groups, Protection and Advocacy for Disabled people. These places are not going to just jump out and say "Hey we're here to take your kids" but they exist. Call the state psychiatric. hospital and talk to the counselor or nurse and ask them. </p><p></p><p>The other option is to bring him home....and get some intense counseling and hope for the best. Put in applications NOW for Big Brother programs and beg for a big brother or shadow type person through a church or somwhere like mental health to offer Wrap services - (while I Find these useless - SOMETIMES they can offer RESPITE services as a weekend help for parents) ---and sometimes they can offer a mentor person through the week to help your son and just take him to play basketball or to the movies or mall. </p><p></p><p>There is a wealth of information out there. </p><p></p><p>Hugs & Welcome</p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 336246, member: 4964"] Hi Ya Queenie! Welcome to the Board & Family! Raising an ecnopretic child with ODD and Anger issues who is suspected of being Bipolar NOT MUCH FUN. Throw in loosing all the male influences in his life at different critical growth stages and genetic mish-mosh? Welcome to my world and then some. :winking: Fortunately for us now? My son is 19 and no longer has those issues but it's been a really long road and a lot of severely intense therapy, anger management, and taught coping skills that did not sink in immediately. I think a lot of the things he learned from Residential Treatment Center (RTC) staff and therapists didn't really hit him until he was much older. Defiance still pays a price even when it's in the least restrictive environment. - UGH. Tough love seems to be the best teacher and detaching as a parent, but you feel so incredibly guilty because you already feel like life has dealt them a bad hand and then YOU have to go and be tough on top of things when you are supposed to be the one person they can turn to when life is falling apart. Raising children like ours is not for the weak of spirit. That's why it's a good thing to come here and have support and know that you are not the only crazy Mom in the whole world. Was I afraid of my child? Yeah. Scared to death of him. Were other people? Heck yeah. Would our own family therapist have spent a night in my house? NO WAY IN HADES. And that comment got him put into a locked psychiatric hospital where he could be observed and evaluated for longer and NOT come home and be a danger to us. He's 19 now, and if I told you our sad little story well - it's ours, and it's sad, and it's incredible I have any hair left. Him too I guess. lol. Snatch that child bald headed - :surprised1: (just kidding.........no I am not) But he's 19 now....a convicted felon, living at home and finally FINALLY doing okay. (Says thanks be to God) There ARE programs where you can put children that are a danger to themselves and others. You just have to rattle and be the squeeky wheel. I'm not sure where you are......but if he's that dangerous and you're really afraid for him to come home to be around your other children, you can start with your local DSS or Mental health and see if there are programs available. Call your governors office and tell them that you have a child that is very unstable .....you need help - what do they suggest? There are also groups like NAMI - National Alliance for the Mentally Ill in every state that can usually point you in the right direction. SOmetimes there are Federation of Families groups, Protection and Advocacy for Disabled people. These places are not going to just jump out and say "Hey we're here to take your kids" but they exist. Call the state psychiatric. hospital and talk to the counselor or nurse and ask them. The other option is to bring him home....and get some intense counseling and hope for the best. Put in applications NOW for Big Brother programs and beg for a big brother or shadow type person through a church or somwhere like mental health to offer Wrap services - (while I Find these useless - SOMETIMES they can offer RESPITE services as a weekend help for parents) ---and sometimes they can offer a mentor person through the week to help your son and just take him to play basketball or to the movies or mall. There is a wealth of information out there. Hugs & Welcome Star [/QUOTE]
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