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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 90953" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Well, frankly, you just made this all too easy. You typed in the "answers" yourself.</p><p></p><p>I agree with-this:</p><p><em></em></p><p><em>He said that difficult child is able to maintain all day, but feels safe at home and lets his mouth run. </em></p><p></p><p>He is transitioning. He also feels safe. Big kid, big mouth, big issues. </p><p></p><p><em>His problem is all with his attitude and mouth. Right now he's obsessed with finding some cd's for the computer... He's too clingy. He's almost 15 and is always right with me. I can't even go to the gas station without him coming along. I feel like he's smothering me because he's always by me. Sometimes he stands and looks over my shoulder at my email. He freaks out to be left alone especially at night.</em></p><p></p><p>You said he has PTSD ... in his mind, he's still a small child. This will take yrs of training, in my humble opinion. You've made a lot of progress, and you've still got a way to go. </p><p></p><p>Any time he has a change, it's going to affect him Big Time, because of who he is and what he's been through. How often do you go to counseling? I think he's old enough and capable enough for Cognitive Therapy.</p><p></p><p><em>I think maybe I'm Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) because I can't handle all the noise.</em></p><p></p><p>Me, too. I can relate!</p><p></p><p>I'd talk to him while he's still at school (since he'll behave there), and tell him he gets $1 or $5 or whatever you deem reasonable, for ea 5 min. he leaves you completely alone. Then make it 10 min. And 15. Be sure to tell him you love him, etc. I'd start with-physical presence, and work up to the voice issues later. Or if he can go for 15 min. in a wk. you can get him a new CD. Obviously he values CDs ... so work with-what he wants as a reward. Do it bit by bit.</p><p>Also, you can send him on errands to another room to get something you need. "You are SO good at finding XYZ, and you're the only one who knows how to do it. Please go get it for me." That way, he's pleasing you, and knows you need him and his help, but you're giving him a task, and reassuring him of your presence because you will be right there to accept whatever it he you asked him to get.</p><p></p><p>Just some ideas ...</p><p></p><p>Good luck! Sounds like you've done a fantastic job so far!!!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 90953, member: 3419"] Well, frankly, you just made this all too easy. You typed in the "answers" yourself. I agree with-this: [i] He said that difficult child is able to maintain all day, but feels safe at home and lets his mouth run. [/i] He is transitioning. He also feels safe. Big kid, big mouth, big issues. [i]His problem is all with his attitude and mouth. Right now he's obsessed with finding some cd's for the computer... He's too clingy. He's almost 15 and is always right with me. I can't even go to the gas station without him coming along. I feel like he's smothering me because he's always by me. Sometimes he stands and looks over my shoulder at my email. He freaks out to be left alone especially at night.[/i] You said he has PTSD ... in his mind, he's still a small child. This will take yrs of training, in my humble opinion. You've made a lot of progress, and you've still got a way to go. Any time he has a change, it's going to affect him Big Time, because of who he is and what he's been through. How often do you go to counseling? I think he's old enough and capable enough for Cognitive Therapy. [i]I think maybe I'm Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) because I can't handle all the noise.[/i] Me, too. I can relate! I'd talk to him while he's still at school (since he'll behave there), and tell him he gets $1 or $5 or whatever you deem reasonable, for ea 5 min. he leaves you completely alone. Then make it 10 min. And 15. Be sure to tell him you love him, etc. I'd start with-physical presence, and work up to the voice issues later. Or if he can go for 15 min. in a wk. you can get him a new CD. Obviously he values CDs ... so work with-what he wants as a reward. Do it bit by bit. Also, you can send him on errands to another room to get something you need. "You are SO good at finding XYZ, and you're the only one who knows how to do it. Please go get it for me." That way, he's pleasing you, and knows you need him and his help, but you're giving him a task, and reassuring him of your presence because you will be right there to accept whatever it he you asked him to get. Just some ideas ... Good luck! Sounds like you've done a fantastic job so far!!!!! [/QUOTE]
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