mrscatinthehat
Seussical
Do you ever get tired of the words treatment plan, accountability, non compliant, restraint, therapy, group, abuse, mental illness etc? I know I haven't been around for awhile. Trying to make changes in our lives means I tend to give up on my things or at the very least set them aside. I hate all of this. I hate my need to have to talk to other people with kids. I hate the condiscending looks I get from people. "How are your kids doing?" That question while being well-meaning makes me want to vomit. It is almost as bad as asking me how our house is coming ( we have a fixer upper that is not fixing very fast). I hate the people that are part of DHS that sit in judgement of us. We were just recently complained that we were denying easy child of critical care. So of course they investigated us and our house. The jerk that came walked in without knocking and then things went downhill from there. Needless to say it was unfounded and we can go on for the next few moments. Although in the report I had to laugh. I was so angry with all of the visits they made during their investigation that I just stopped talking. I made my husband handle it. (which is definately not in character for me.) So in the report on the one day it says "Beth didn't speak". I found that so hilarious. I thought to myself at least they couldn't say I said anything "uncooperative" or the like. We provide for all three kids. We do everything and then some of what we are asked. We work with providers from both difficult child's placements. (actually I piss them off because I want information like about doctors and such..for example difficult child 2 was taken to eye doctor and got glasses we knew nothing of the appointment and they didn't understand why I was upset) We get treated like we are defective and yet told we work harder than most of the parents they have seen at their placements and then get crapped on harder. They don't have to be consistant but we do. They can change things in mid stride and we are supposed to adapt. I so just wish I knew who checked up on them. Are their lives perfect that they can dictate so much to us. Do they have people checking on their homes all the time to ensure they are really qualified to do these things. Of course then you have the difficult child's who in placement get to do special things and whatnot (for example difficult child 1 went to see Phantom of the Opera performed on stage) Must be nice to be able to do things like that. Not that I don't want my kids to do things but it seems a little far fetched all of the activities she does. Why the heck is she going to put any effort into her treatment when she knows she gets a better deal there. Like giving her other food options instead of the regular meal. She knows that type of thing won't happen here at home. Oh well nothing I can really do to change this but I just wish that I could win a lot of money and one of the first things I would do is set up some kind of parent advocacy group specifically to help parents with kids in placement. Not people to say just deal with it but make a change in how this is all handled.
Sorry guess this is a long rant.
Beth
Sorry guess this is a long rant.
Beth