So for the last couple of years I have worked with difficult child's cheer team and the youth girls that they work with. I love doing this because I enjoy working with the little ones and I enjoy giving back to the community. This year I had to promise difficult child that I would step back from it considerably because it really irritates difficult child when I am involved in her stuff. I know sad but at that point it wasnt worth it to argue. I got difficult child to agree that I could do youth cheerleading and then small supportive things without difficult child ing and moaning about it. Of course it still caused a few small blow ups when I would have to ask a question and she didn't want to answer. Anyway the point it that Friday night I wrapped up my "cheer mom" career. Since difficult child moved out and quit the team I am was technically done a while back but I had committed to an Elite Youth squad and they were 3/4 of the way through the season so I really wanted to finish it. difficult child wasn't here to ***** about it so nothing was holding me back. I could do something I enjoy without fear of difficult child's bull****. The Elite squad had their final performance on Friday and it went really well. I was so proud of them. They hadn't had much practice and had never performed in front of a crowd but they did a dang good job! Heck I didn't realize it at the time but they performed on homecoming night at a boys basketball game which means it probably had the highest attendance of the year. At the end I got a ton of accolades from kids and parents and even our high school coaches. A lot of these kids had tears in their eyes telling me how much they appreciated the opportunity because there is nothing offered like it in the area! I got home to more posts on the Facebook page about how much they enjoyed the year and how much they would miss me since we are moving. How is it that I can love kids so much and give my heart and time to them so they can have the things they need but my own kid can't stand me? Really I just don't understand? I would give her the world and I give back to my community and the children in it but difficult child only sees that as a threat or a nuisance. Not once would she ever tell me I did a good job at this or thank you for supporting her team even though it was a ton of work. I know I am not a bad person because if I were those kids would have walked out the door with a simple thanks that their parents made them say. Why can't my difficult child see that? How do you deal with that?