I thought I had detachment 101 down pretty well. In just this short time I've learned there is so much more I have to learn........and it is so hard. I'd already guessed Nichole was sleeping with bff's husband.........quite a while back, but her bringing him to the movies cinched it for me. But was clinging to the hope that it wasn't true. Pop that hope bubble because she admitted it to easy child today. easy child said she looked smitten. Gag, choke, cough. easy child warned her not to attempt to bring him to Easter dinner. She was welcome, but that man most certainly is not. I think my daughter's brain went on Spring break. She most certainly isn't using it at all. easy child pointed out to her that Nichole herself had witnessed quite alot of his abuse of bff........alot of verbal, emotional, mental. What was she thinking?? Just breezed right over the kid's head. So I have a constant battle going on with myself. I want to handle the situation myself. If I did there would be no more problem. Then there is the rational side that knows she has got to learn this lesson herself. And then I just get so digusted.........I want to vomit. I thank God above the man can't get her pregnant at least. BUT (told you there are alot of buts in my life recently) Nichole still has never started her period. She's going to the doctor for another blood test. She hinted to easy child she believes it's Jerk Man's. I told you her brain has left her. If she is, it's ex boyfriend's. How's that for things maybe becoming even more complicated?? She told easy child she is afraid to tell me. Gee? I wonder why that would be?? Hmmmmm. Let me think..... When she does find the courage..........she will get an ear full. Mom happens to be very unhappy. And she will discover just how unhappy I am. You jump from one jerk to an even bigger jerk who's also dangerous as hades, toss your child aside to take on his two kids.........Nope. Doesn't wash with me. Sure she can do as she pleases, she's an "adult" making her own decisions. BUT that doesn't mean I have to like it or even pretend to tolerate it. On her fb she was wondering if she should start calling his house "home". Ugh Home it may be......but there won't be anyone moving her belongings to this new home, and bff's husband steps a foot on my property and I'll call the cops. Naw, forget the cops. I'll let Molly have some fun. She's always hated the man anyway. And only I can call her off when I've told her to attack. Yes, I'm being a *itch. So be it. She was raised better than this. This jerk has no morals. None. I'm finding it hard to detach, in case you couldn't tell. I keep telling myself she has to learn for herself. She has to grow up. Ex boyfriend was the only real boyfriend she ever had. (I don't count those 48 hr romances of Jr High) Her naivety is amazing me. I thought she was so much smarter than this. She can't even see that he's already started controlling her. She can't make plans without checking HIS schedule, she can't go anywhere without him. Next, she won't be allowed to go anywhere. Because he'll be certain she's cheating and he'll badger her about it non stop. She'll have to ask his permission to leave the house. I know been there done that with bff. It's been just over 2 weeks. I know bff's husband too well. It won't be long now before the "honeymoon" phase ends. He can't keep the super nice guy routine going for long. So I'm still hoping Nichole's temper will jolt her back to reality and she'll see him for what he really is. I wonder how long she's going to keep trying to avoid me? Hmmm.