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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 748857" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>This serves a useful purpose in that it further reveals her smallness, cruelty, and the extent she both uses you and feels entitled to everything you have and will ever have. </p><p></p><p>At some point you will no longer need more evidence of this truth, and you will accept her as she is. </p><p></p><p>In my way of thinking the only way to respond to or engage with this kind of bad behavior is dead silence. Anything else will give her the opportunity, the excuse, to further bait you and to blame you and to hurt you. She does not want to understand "your side of things." You are useful to her. No more. I am not saying there is not love somewhere in her. But it has been a long time since she has acted towards you from that love. </p><p></p><p>Nothing that you do will change her. Life may change her.. She is who she is. It's like the story of the scorpion who asks the fox for a ride on his back across the river. </p><p></p><p><em>You'll sting me and kill me. Why would I give you a ride? </em></p><p></p><p><em>Why would I sting you, fox? If I did I would die. That would be foolish. </em></p><p></p><p>The fox carries the scorpion who stings him as they cross. </p><p></p><p><em>Why did you do that? Why do you want to kill me? You will die with me.</em></p><p></p><p><em>It's my nature, said the scorpion. </em></p><p></p><p>How many times do we need to learn this lesson? As many times as we need.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 748857, member: 18958"] This serves a useful purpose in that it further reveals her smallness, cruelty, and the extent she both uses you and feels entitled to everything you have and will ever have. At some point you will no longer need more evidence of this truth, and you will accept her as she is. In my way of thinking the only way to respond to or engage with this kind of bad behavior is dead silence. Anything else will give her the opportunity, the excuse, to further bait you and to blame you and to hurt you. She does not want to understand "your side of things." You are useful to her. No more. I am not saying there is not love somewhere in her. But it has been a long time since she has acted towards you from that love. Nothing that you do will change her. Life may change her.. She is who she is. It's like the story of the scorpion who asks the fox for a ride on his back across the river. [I]You'll sting me and kill me. Why would I give you a ride? [/I] [I]Why would I sting you, fox? If I did I would die. That would be foolish. [/I] The fox carries the scorpion who stings him as they cross. [I]Why did you do that? Why do you want to kill me? You will die with me.[/I] [I]It's my nature, said the scorpion. [/I] How many times do we need to learn this lesson? As many times as we need. [/QUOTE]
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