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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 506969"><p>Thanks you all are the best. I am so thankful I found this forum with others who really understand what this is like!! I agree he needs detox and some kind of treatment but I also know I can't dictate it to him anymore. He has got to realize that himself. He really is not getting it. He has a tendancy to sabatoge himself and break the rules for breaking the rules sake... I am sure that ODD aspect of him is not helping him when he also feels the cravings and urge to use. It also kind of ticks me off that he doesn't really have a conversation with us... but only texts and then when I ask something he doesn't want to answer he just doesn't respond. I am really pretty fed up. I wish I didn't have the fear of him dying.... that fear draws me in every time. And yet even that isnt something I can prevent.</p><p></p><p>The last couple of days I have been going to the what if we had found a different tx place, would that have made a difference. I think I keep hoping for the perfect tx place that somehow will get through to him... and yet I know really the place won't make a difference if he doesnt want it for himself. And I really just dont think he is there yet.</p><p></p><p>So there really is nothing I can do. I have to keep reminding myself of that... "God grant me the serentiy to accept the things I cannot change"....</p><p></p><p>TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 506969"] Thanks you all are the best. I am so thankful I found this forum with others who really understand what this is like!! I agree he needs detox and some kind of treatment but I also know I can't dictate it to him anymore. He has got to realize that himself. He really is not getting it. He has a tendancy to sabatoge himself and break the rules for breaking the rules sake... I am sure that ODD aspect of him is not helping him when he also feels the cravings and urge to use. It also kind of ticks me off that he doesn't really have a conversation with us... but only texts and then when I ask something he doesn't want to answer he just doesn't respond. I am really pretty fed up. I wish I didn't have the fear of him dying.... that fear draws me in every time. And yet even that isnt something I can prevent. The last couple of days I have been going to the what if we had found a different tx place, would that have made a difference. I think I keep hoping for the perfect tx place that somehow will get through to him... and yet I know really the place won't make a difference if he doesnt want it for himself. And I really just dont think he is there yet. So there really is nothing I can do. I have to keep reminding myself of that... "God grant me the serentiy to accept the things I cannot change".... TL [/QUOTE]
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