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gave easy child the rule breakdown; apparently she's agreeing
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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 435029" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p><span style="color: darkslateblue">While I agree that the onus is on her in terms of making the appointment to see Dr and get medications, sign up for Summer school to graduate in August...I can see how having her under your roof MAY be an opportunity for her to stay on track with it all, rather than lapse back into the party life while living with this alternative family she's been with. It's very easy for an already wayward 'follower' like your daughter to slip and fall back into those bad behaviors while trying to get her life in order.</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: darkslateblue">That said, on the other hand, you do have to make certain that YOUR primary concern is your health and if she moves back in, even while getting her act together, you/H cannot allow her to compromise your health. And there is no way to make her stay on board with that plan - NONE. </span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: darkslateblue">If you let her move back home in an effort to help her get her act together, finish school, and appropriately medicate herself, what will happen if she fails, lapses, and upsets your household? How will that affect you, H, and difficult child who is only getting back on her feet herself? What is your plan? Have you and H discussed your backup plan if things don't go the way you're hoping? I think this is an important step - have a backup plan and easy child MUST be in on this backup plan. Resist the temptation to say things like, "If you screwup, you're outta here" and instead say, "We need to develop alternative living arrangements should your plans fall through due to my ongoing health issues". I have found that the way in which we say things, the wording we use, makes quite a difference! Best of luck, you're doing very well.</span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 435029, member: 2211"] [COLOR=darkslateblue]While I agree that the onus is on her in terms of making the appointment to see Dr and get medications, sign up for Summer school to graduate in August...I can see how having her under your roof MAY be an opportunity for her to stay on track with it all, rather than lapse back into the party life while living with this alternative family she's been with. It's very easy for an already wayward 'follower' like your daughter to slip and fall back into those bad behaviors while trying to get her life in order.[/COLOR] [COLOR=darkslateblue][/COLOR] [COLOR=darkslateblue]That said, on the other hand, you do have to make certain that YOUR primary concern is your health and if she moves back in, even while getting her act together, you/H cannot allow her to compromise your health. And there is no way to make her stay on board with that plan - NONE. [/COLOR] [COLOR=darkslateblue][/COLOR] [COLOR=darkslateblue]If you let her move back home in an effort to help her get her act together, finish school, and appropriately medicate herself, what will happen if she fails, lapses, and upsets your household? How will that affect you, H, and difficult child who is only getting back on her feet herself? What is your plan? Have you and H discussed your backup plan if things don't go the way you're hoping? I think this is an important step - have a backup plan and easy child MUST be in on this backup plan. Resist the temptation to say things like, "If you screwup, you're outta here" and instead say, "We need to develop alternative living arrangements should your plans fall through due to my ongoing health issues". I have found that the way in which we say things, the wording we use, makes quite a difference! Best of luck, you're doing very well.[/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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