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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 548756" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>This sounds like an instant replay of many conversations we had with our difficult child. And her favorite response to anything we said was "wow". I hope you don't end up doing what we did, paying tuition for a semester in college knowing full well that she was just going so she could party 24/7. She lasted six weeks before she was arrested for drinking and smoking pot. Ended up being suspended after the semester. We ended up with tuition and student loan bills. She went through her entire meal accountin two months. It was a stupid idea, we hoped she would get there and the light bulb would go off. Right! All the signs were there and we ignored them, we wanted so badly for her to go to college. She didn't want it, she just wanted the freedom away from us.</p><p></p><p>My husband and I never fought before our problems with difficult child, but then we argued all the time. It isn't that he ignored the problem, but he didn;t want to deal with it. He wasn't home all day with her and so he didn't take the brunt of it and when he got home he wanted to relax and not deal woith it. He had the attitude that there was nothing we could do so he would just ignore it. I'm happy to say that once she left our home things are back to normal. One of the reasons I knew she had to leave when she did was because I knew if she stayed much longer there would be nothing left of our relationship.</p><p></p><p>I see our family two years ago where you are now. I'm thinking about you and anxious to hear what happens.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 548756, member: 59"] This sounds like an instant replay of many conversations we had with our difficult child. And her favorite response to anything we said was "wow". I hope you don't end up doing what we did, paying tuition for a semester in college knowing full well that she was just going so she could party 24/7. She lasted six weeks before she was arrested for drinking and smoking pot. Ended up being suspended after the semester. We ended up with tuition and student loan bills. She went through her entire meal accountin two months. It was a stupid idea, we hoped she would get there and the light bulb would go off. Right! All the signs were there and we ignored them, we wanted so badly for her to go to college. She didn't want it, she just wanted the freedom away from us. My husband and I never fought before our problems with difficult child, but then we argued all the time. It isn't that he ignored the problem, but he didn;t want to deal with it. He wasn't home all day with her and so he didn't take the brunt of it and when he got home he wanted to relax and not deal woith it. He had the attitude that there was nothing we could do so he would just ignore it. I'm happy to say that once she left our home things are back to normal. One of the reasons I knew she had to leave when she did was because I knew if she stayed much longer there would be nothing left of our relationship. I see our family two years ago where you are now. I'm thinking about you and anxious to hear what happens. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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