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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 500735" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I don't agree to let her get to it on her own time. You are her mom. Can you sit her down with a cup of coffee or whatever and say, Honey, you know I am worried. I hope you know that I think you and sister in law are amazing parents. What I am worried about has NOTHING to do with your parenting and everything to do with me being a worrywart. If I made an appointment with Dr. Old Neuro for an evaluation, would you take Connor and let me come and talk to him? If he tells me there is nothing then I will be able to not worry. Until then, I worry a LOT. I just see a LOT that reminds me of what we went through with Travis and I am TERRIFIED that Dr. Old Neuro will be the only one who can find it just liek it was for Travis. I would NEVER forgive myself if I didn't BEG you to indulge me and get him tested. because if there IS a problem, then early help could mean long term very minimal problems and a normal life, but waiting could mean real problems and a lifetime of hard things FOR CONNOR.</p><p></p><p>I know you are an amazing parent and that your kids could NOT have better parents. But I worry and cannot help it and have tried but I am just so scared that if Dr. Old Neuro isn't around then years might be wasted and Connor would be the one to pay. PLEASE indulge me, know that it is MY shortcomings in passing the genes on to you that has me worried, and I would feel I was a bad parent to you ad a bad Nana to Connor if I didn't BEG you for this. What can I do to get you to understand how scared I am and how I don't want him to suffer from not getting help early enough? I KNOW I am probably over-reactig and I ahve tried to let it go and wait and see. It is just eating at me. PLEASE???</p><p></p><p>Maybe phrased this way would help her. The earlier he gets Occupational Therapist (OT) and PT the earlier the brain can learn new ways to hadle things. The earlier the polycythemia diagnosis ad treatment, the fewer TIAs from not being treated. Period. The goal is a great life for Connor. If begging her to allay YOUR FEARS will do it, then beg, I say.</p><p></p><p>There were a couple of issues where my mom said something similar to me, and I used it on her when she REFUSED to accept that things had to be a bit different for Wiz like medications, not having ANY violent ANYTHING including no disney, no Power Rangers (she had a HUGE problem not going to McDonalds when they had Power Ranger toys. 10 different fast food places with kids meals and this was a HUGE deal and I flat out BEGGED her not to. I told her the last time I gave in to my aunt on it he high kicked Jessie right where she was in my belly TELLING me he was going to kick her out of me. THAT was what watching them did to him, or even playing with a PR toy at a friend's house did that. So we didn't do ANYTHING or go ANYWHERE that had them. And it was worth begging to not go through that. </p><p></p><p>I just think making it about YOU being scared, YOU being worried that you caused this by passing on the gene, the old dr might retire and tehn you would feel you didn't do your best to help her raise him, this might make it easier for her. And since you ARE worried, scared, etc.... it is true. It is a spin, but it isn't a lie.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 500735, member: 1233"] I don't agree to let her get to it on her own time. You are her mom. Can you sit her down with a cup of coffee or whatever and say, Honey, you know I am worried. I hope you know that I think you and sister in law are amazing parents. What I am worried about has NOTHING to do with your parenting and everything to do with me being a worrywart. If I made an appointment with Dr. Old Neuro for an evaluation, would you take Connor and let me come and talk to him? If he tells me there is nothing then I will be able to not worry. Until then, I worry a LOT. I just see a LOT that reminds me of what we went through with Travis and I am TERRIFIED that Dr. Old Neuro will be the only one who can find it just liek it was for Travis. I would NEVER forgive myself if I didn't BEG you to indulge me and get him tested. because if there IS a problem, then early help could mean long term very minimal problems and a normal life, but waiting could mean real problems and a lifetime of hard things FOR CONNOR. I know you are an amazing parent and that your kids could NOT have better parents. But I worry and cannot help it and have tried but I am just so scared that if Dr. Old Neuro isn't around then years might be wasted and Connor would be the one to pay. PLEASE indulge me, know that it is MY shortcomings in passing the genes on to you that has me worried, and I would feel I was a bad parent to you ad a bad Nana to Connor if I didn't BEG you for this. What can I do to get you to understand how scared I am and how I don't want him to suffer from not getting help early enough? I KNOW I am probably over-reactig and I ahve tried to let it go and wait and see. It is just eating at me. PLEASE??? Maybe phrased this way would help her. The earlier he gets Occupational Therapist (OT) and PT the earlier the brain can learn new ways to hadle things. The earlier the polycythemia diagnosis ad treatment, the fewer TIAs from not being treated. Period. The goal is a great life for Connor. If begging her to allay YOUR FEARS will do it, then beg, I say. There were a couple of issues where my mom said something similar to me, and I used it on her when she REFUSED to accept that things had to be a bit different for Wiz like medications, not having ANY violent ANYTHING including no disney, no Power Rangers (she had a HUGE problem not going to McDonalds when they had Power Ranger toys. 10 different fast food places with kids meals and this was a HUGE deal and I flat out BEGGED her not to. I told her the last time I gave in to my aunt on it he high kicked Jessie right where she was in my belly TELLING me he was going to kick her out of me. THAT was what watching them did to him, or even playing with a PR toy at a friend's house did that. So we didn't do ANYTHING or go ANYWHERE that had them. And it was worth begging to not go through that. I just think making it about YOU being scared, YOU being worried that you caused this by passing on the gene, the old dr might retire and tehn you would feel you didn't do your best to help her raise him, this might make it easier for her. And since you ARE worried, scared, etc.... it is true. It is a spin, but it isn't a lie. [/QUOTE]
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