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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 704203" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Your trip sounds AMAZING! You MUST go!!!! It would so much a mistake to let a whiny toddler in grown up clothes throwing a whiny tantrum stop you!!! Sort of like not going out on a date because your 2 year old cried when the babysitter came. Two minutes after you left the child was happy and playing, and staying home would have just ruined everyone's night.</p><p></p><p>It may be time to accept that your son is beyond your help. You are pouring resources into a black hole and all he is doing is resenting you for it while demanding more. He claims he wants this, and it horrifies you, as it would most parents. But it isn't up to you, and you cannot let it ruin your life. </p><p></p><p>I know he is your son, but if you could step back a bit, and look at it, what was a change of scenery supposed to do? Other than get him out of the cold weather, changing where you are doesn't leave your addictions or baggage behind. </p><p></p><p>IF your son is like my brother, I honestly believe your trip was the impetus for this latest crisis. Almost ANY?EVERY time my parents have a trip, party or event planned, he will have an emergency or crisis. He will pick a fight, come in bleeding from some 'accident', need to talk RIGHT NOW, etc.... Some are pretty funny, as are some of the ways my parents handle them. But others are NOT. Big trips often have some property related crisis that requires a chunk of cash. Your son likely figured that if you had all that money for the trip, he could get it if he had an emergency. Wouldn't that be a big party for him???</p><p></p><p>You gave him a good childhood, as good as you could. You never once, not one single time, woke up and asked yourself, "How can I mess my kid up the most today?". He is a full fledged, out of the nest, legal adult. It is time for him to fly. On his own, on his own dime, without any kind of support from you except positive emotional support given within very strict boundaries. Whatever boundaries YOU choose.Otherwise, ignore the little brat. </p><p></p><p>RIght now he is choosing boundaries and trying to con you. Go on the trip and have a wonderful time. Dance, Laugh, Sing, Read, Eat, Celebrate, and Enjoy!!! You DESERVE this!!!! </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>1</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 704203, member: 1233"] Your trip sounds AMAZING! You MUST go!!!! It would so much a mistake to let a whiny toddler in grown up clothes throwing a whiny tantrum stop you!!! Sort of like not going out on a date because your 2 year old cried when the babysitter came. Two minutes after you left the child was happy and playing, and staying home would have just ruined everyone's night. It may be time to accept that your son is beyond your help. You are pouring resources into a black hole and all he is doing is resenting you for it while demanding more. He claims he wants this, and it horrifies you, as it would most parents. But it isn't up to you, and you cannot let it ruin your life. I know he is your son, but if you could step back a bit, and look at it, what was a change of scenery supposed to do? Other than get him out of the cold weather, changing where you are doesn't leave your addictions or baggage behind. IF your son is like my brother, I honestly believe your trip was the impetus for this latest crisis. Almost ANY?EVERY time my parents have a trip, party or event planned, he will have an emergency or crisis. He will pick a fight, come in bleeding from some 'accident', need to talk RIGHT NOW, etc.... Some are pretty funny, as are some of the ways my parents handle them. But others are NOT. Big trips often have some property related crisis that requires a chunk of cash. Your son likely figured that if you had all that money for the trip, he could get it if he had an emergency. Wouldn't that be a big party for him??? You gave him a good childhood, as good as you could. You never once, not one single time, woke up and asked yourself, "How can I mess my kid up the most today?". He is a full fledged, out of the nest, legal adult. It is time for him to fly. On his own, on his own dime, without any kind of support from you except positive emotional support given within very strict boundaries. Whatever boundaries YOU choose.Otherwise, ignore the little brat. RIght now he is choosing boundaries and trying to con you. Go on the trip and have a wonderful time. Dance, Laugh, Sing, Read, Eat, Celebrate, and Enjoy!!! You DESERVE this!!!! 1 [/QUOTE]
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