Had IEP a couple of weeks ago. I asked for Asperger evaluation by school and also getting private one on Dec 3 by the local Children's Hospital. Assistant Principal actually told me that having AS diagnosis would not change IEP from what he has now with diagnosis of "ADHD with tics". And she was on the Autism Team at her previous school. Obviously, she knows all about it then, doesn't she? I am anxious to get the diagnosis. Wondering what they will do with it. I feel a little guilty. Wondering if we had the correct diagnosis 5 years ago, how much better would his life be now. Everything I am reading says that EARLY intervention and retraining is key. I feel sad for him. I feel tired, emotionally drained most days. Every day, almost, there is some thing. At school this past week he thought kids were talking about him at lunch; so he was distracted trying to listen to determine if they were or not. He didn't finish eating on time. So, here is the catch-22: stick with the routine and go to recess but be hungry or stay in and finish eating but the routine is then messed up and that, as you know, is not compatible with life if you have AS. So, he followed the teacher's direction and changed seats to finish eating; slamming his tray down, making his milk fly off and hit the wall. Then after eating, he cleaned his mess up (high five for responsibility) and went outside, still mad. Then he climbed a fence. Teachers thought he was eloping and called the prinicpal who took him to the office to cool off. I am getting to where I have to prioritize ... he did not hurt or threaten to hurt himself of another student ... so we are good. I say "sorry you had a tough day ... what could you have done differently? What will you do next time this happens?" It seems like an incredible task to think that he has AS and that means my job as parent, is to teach him all this stuff that peers and society would normally teach him. Situation by situation ... talking ... strategizing ... planning ... I'm exhausted already!!!