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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 162200" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>BBK, Linda makes some very good suggestions.</p><p>These are similar to some of the things we have set up at my difficult child"s Residential Treatment Center (RTC) (and he's nearly 19!!!)</p><p></p><p>Sometimes, having to make a choice is such an overwhelming process, especially if a child is hyper or manic, or has Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) issues, or racing thoughts, or whatever. There's just too much stuff to process.</p><p></p><p>It's sort of a:</p><p>- what if I pick the wrong thing? I like swimming but I also like movies and if I choose the movie then maybe swimming today would be the best swimming ever and I would miss it - but I don't like the way my hair feels after getting out of the pool - but there's my new colouring book and I wanted to do that too, but then there's the movie. I wonder what's playing at the cinema, I've already seen that movie but I want to see it again...</p><p></p><p>and on and on it goes.</p><p></p><p>When mt difficult child had to choose between 2 or 3 fun things, he used to behave so badly that he would be punished by losing all of them. Then he would be good as gold for the next few days. It was weird. Almost as if the pressure of making teh right choice was so great that it was easier to lose all of the choices, than to pick one thing and possibly miss out on the Greatest Fun Ever To Be Had.</p><p></p><p>After a while, I stopped giving difficult child choices, or telling him ahead of time. I would put "special event" or "outing" on his calendar, but I wouldn't tell him what it was until a couple of hours beforehand. This seemed to help him not get too overwhelmed with everything. </p><p></p><p>{{{Hugs}}} </p><p></p><p>Trinity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 162200, member: 3907"] BBK, Linda makes some very good suggestions. These are similar to some of the things we have set up at my difficult child"s Residential Treatment Center (RTC) (and he's nearly 19!!!) Sometimes, having to make a choice is such an overwhelming process, especially if a child is hyper or manic, or has Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) issues, or racing thoughts, or whatever. There's just too much stuff to process. It's sort of a: - what if I pick the wrong thing? I like swimming but I also like movies and if I choose the movie then maybe swimming today would be the best swimming ever and I would miss it - but I don't like the way my hair feels after getting out of the pool - but there's my new colouring book and I wanted to do that too, but then there's the movie. I wonder what's playing at the cinema, I've already seen that movie but I want to see it again... and on and on it goes. When mt difficult child had to choose between 2 or 3 fun things, he used to behave so badly that he would be punished by losing all of them. Then he would be good as gold for the next few days. It was weird. Almost as if the pressure of making teh right choice was so great that it was easier to lose all of the choices, than to pick one thing and possibly miss out on the Greatest Fun Ever To Be Had. After a while, I stopped giving difficult child choices, or telling him ahead of time. I would put "special event" or "outing" on his calendar, but I wouldn't tell him what it was until a couple of hours beforehand. This seemed to help him not get too overwhelmed with everything. {{{Hugs}}} Trinity [/QUOTE]
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