My gfgbro called and wanted to come over on the spur of the moment to measure my utility room to put shelves in. I felt horrible, but said OK - but I might not be up and about. (Stomach was upset) I managed to get the litterbox cleaned out and the laundry out of the way so he could get in there to measure. Then I went and got sick and laid down. Jess was out there, having completed her school work for the week. Gfgbro came in with-his 5yo daughter. He couldn't find a measuring tape (there were 2 right in front of his nose) so Jess let him use hers. Then she was helping my niece in the bathroom while he did something, and he called for her to help. She didn't hear him. After the bathroom, my niece was carrying some snack cakes in a flimsy box all around the living room. Jess asked her to put them down. One cake got dropped. My gfgbro had a FIT. He left all in a huff because "We both know what really happened here, and it was NOT my daughter's fault" He had the NERVE to say that!!! He wasn't in the room. He doesn't supervise his child if Jess is around - he goes off and does stuff or talks with adults and just expects Jess to keep an eye on niece. We have spoken about this over and over since niece learned to CRAWL. I am more than ready to NOT see him again other than major holidays at my parents' home. My kids cannot stand him. Is there ANYTHING I can do to get him OFF my daughter's back other than just not seeing him? I have tried almost every combination of words I can think of. Talked to him. Written him letters. It just gets worse if I say something. In the future he won't be able to come over if husband isn't home. Just will tell him it won't work right now. I can't think of another way to deal with him. It really makes me wonder if he has been drinking again. Thanks for letting me vent, and for any ideas. Family dynamics are bizarre, aren't they?