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<blockquote data-quote="DavidEssex" data-source="post: 627558" data-attributes="member: 18049"><p>Hello ToughLovin,</p><p></p><p>Yes I agree, the trust issue is an issue between US. The drug issue is an issue of MINE. Yet they both feed each other. </p><p></p><p>I read a lot of your post and agreed / could see exactly where you were coming from. </p><p></p><p>But you say...</p><p></p><p><em>"The fact she has done drugs in the past, really so what?" </em></p><p></p><p>Is the issue here with me. That's an attitude which has slowly eaten me alive. It's so hard to picture somebody I know doing something hard to believe that person doing. So that's what. Whether anybody reading this can relate or not, that's the issue. </p><p></p><p>Every time a film comes on when its use is shown it eats at me. Every time I read a news article concerning its use / distribution it hurts. Every time I read an article it hurts. Yes this is my problem and I've tried so hard to find a way to deal with this. I can't begin to tell you the times I've broken down crying with a chest physically hurting over this matter. I wouldn't feel this way if it weren't for the fact I care so much about her. I love her. I see myself spending my life with her. </p><p></p><p>It's hard to get over an issue you have been lied to about. It's hard to get over something when you are faced to picture the worst when you care so much about the person. </p><p></p><p>As people who have faced loved ones engaging in drug use - can I ask whether you think it is healthy for the one you love to see no problem with their drug use. Or indeed see no problem with drug use in general? Whether it be friends using, or simply in general. </p><p></p><p>Her drug use was never a problem to the extent she was an addict thankfully. So she is in a very safe place to speak about it openly, she just doesn't want to - with me - because she knows my feelings and doesn't want to hear disapproval. I think she has a lot of denial about the subject and why she got that place, and what it says about her. </p><p></p><p>Yes it should be celebrated she no longer has a need to use. But I really believe to know where we are going, we have to understand where we've been.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DavidEssex, post: 627558, member: 18049"] Hello ToughLovin, Yes I agree, the trust issue is an issue between US. The drug issue is an issue of MINE. Yet they both feed each other. I read a lot of your post and agreed / could see exactly where you were coming from. But you say... [I]"The fact she has done drugs in the past, really so what?" [/I] Is the issue here with me. That's an attitude which has slowly eaten me alive. It's so hard to picture somebody I know doing something hard to believe that person doing. So that's what. Whether anybody reading this can relate or not, that's the issue. Every time a film comes on when its use is shown it eats at me. Every time I read a news article concerning its use / distribution it hurts. Every time I read an article it hurts. Yes this is my problem and I've tried so hard to find a way to deal with this. I can't begin to tell you the times I've broken down crying with a chest physically hurting over this matter. I wouldn't feel this way if it weren't for the fact I care so much about her. I love her. I see myself spending my life with her. It's hard to get over an issue you have been lied to about. It's hard to get over something when you are faced to picture the worst when you care so much about the person. As people who have faced loved ones engaging in drug use - can I ask whether you think it is healthy for the one you love to see no problem with their drug use. Or indeed see no problem with drug use in general? Whether it be friends using, or simply in general. Her drug use was never a problem to the extent she was an addict thankfully. So she is in a very safe place to speak about it openly, she just doesn't want to - with me - because she knows my feelings and doesn't want to hear disapproval. I think she has a lot of denial about the subject and why she got that place, and what it says about her. Yes it should be celebrated she no longer has a need to use. But I really believe to know where we are going, we have to understand where we've been. [/QUOTE]
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