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<blockquote data-quote="Tiapet" data-source="post: 169827" data-attributes="member: 455"><p>So difficult child is having an emotional melt down now. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p><p></p><p>The boy is 19 he is from another state then the girl. I can't figure out how the mom had the cell phone though but apparently he went back home after this concert and then came back for her friend? (still can't figure this out) He comes from a family of money and was going to get into his savings account and would need his mother's signature to do so. I don't know if she actually did or not sign for anything but supposedly they have money. They must if they have been gone now for 4 days.</p><p></p><p>difficult child is mad at me, doesn't want me to ask anymore questions, is upset and scared but not reacting well to any of this. Her current boyfriend is giving her heck (yes at this hour) and looks like he might break up but at the same time her ex is also harrassing her unmercifully (and has been now for a week in a very nasty way and I wish I can intervene because what he is doing is truly ugly and needs to stop). She is spiraling quickly to the drama of "I just wanna die" type statements. Normally it's just statements but I am always leary of what will ever push her over. I'm wide awake and can't sleep because this is pretty heavy stuff.</p><p></p><p>I just checked on line and there is no amber alert for the girl either.</p><p></p><p>She wants nothing more then to be pregnant witz so if that happens she'd be happy. If she was a live in maid she wouldn't care either. To her it's better then her home life. Apparently her mother is a pot head who lives with her grandfather who is like a major gustopo and won't let her do anything (seriously tight reins). The girl has some serious issues. Her bio dad lives way north and she doesn't get along with him. In fact she has been forced in the past to visit with him and it's been bad. She won't go therapy because she's against it (I believe because she thinks it won't work given her home environment).</p><p></p><p>She talks with my difficult child who tries to help her as much as possible but it's a pretty heavy load for a young girl. This girl thinks nothing of drinking and sex (as an escape I know for sure as I've read IM conversations). </p><p></p><p>Now I need to stop worrying so much about the other and focus on mine because she's really having a hard time and she was beginning to do slightly better. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p><p></p><p>Thanks for the thoughts.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Coming back on to add....this is not going well. Current boyfriend just broke up with her. Sent her way over edge. She is in hysterics crying, been for an hour now. She came downstairs and handed me a bottle of pills. It was her pain pills from when she recently had teeth pulled (had 11 in was 20 but I know she had legitamately taken some previously when she needed them). I quickly asked her did you take these? She said no, that's why I'm giving them to you so I don't. (she's previously taken pills for other reasons and such. I now control all pills in house) She also handed me a little knife that she had been keeping as she had been cutting herself a while ago (didn't think she'd done it since but apparently maybe so). I am hurting for her. I know this should pass but sometimes have that fear. I also know that she knows I will put her inpatient even though she says you do that it would be the worst thing.</p><p></p><p>Back again, I see she did do tiny bit of cutting on her leg in same spot she had before and once on her hand (is this new spot?). We have just now talked about some things, she is much calmer. In fact she got on the phone and is talking to her BFF from CA that she's known since she was very little. They will talk for some time and BFF will tell her what a jerk the guys are and such and tell her to straighten out her *** (all the usually BFF stuff that we know a good one does and should do).</p><p></p><p>For now crisis averted and I think I've gotten her to think, yet again, about life and direction/path/choices/focus'. She is so darn smart and has a plan for her future. She knows what she wants out of it and how she has to go about it to get it. I just wish, WISH she could get over this desperate feeling that life is pointless too (as in we're all going to die in the end anyway). How can she think so duely? (is that even a word?) </p><p></p><p>Too much happened tonight to quick, she was scared, mad, angry, upset all at once and then crash her system because at 16 didn't know how to handle it all at once. I will say it was a little overwhelming to me and I'm an adult.</p><p></p><p>If a mod thinks this needs to move forums, please do so.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiapet, post: 169827, member: 455"] So difficult child is having an emotional melt down now. :( The boy is 19 he is from another state then the girl. I can't figure out how the mom had the cell phone though but apparently he went back home after this concert and then came back for her friend? (still can't figure this out) He comes from a family of money and was going to get into his savings account and would need his mother's signature to do so. I don't know if she actually did or not sign for anything but supposedly they have money. They must if they have been gone now for 4 days. difficult child is mad at me, doesn't want me to ask anymore questions, is upset and scared but not reacting well to any of this. Her current boyfriend is giving her heck (yes at this hour) and looks like he might break up but at the same time her ex is also harrassing her unmercifully (and has been now for a week in a very nasty way and I wish I can intervene because what he is doing is truly ugly and needs to stop). She is spiraling quickly to the drama of "I just wanna die" type statements. Normally it's just statements but I am always leary of what will ever push her over. I'm wide awake and can't sleep because this is pretty heavy stuff. I just checked on line and there is no amber alert for the girl either. She wants nothing more then to be pregnant witz so if that happens she'd be happy. If she was a live in maid she wouldn't care either. To her it's better then her home life. Apparently her mother is a pot head who lives with her grandfather who is like a major gustopo and won't let her do anything (seriously tight reins). The girl has some serious issues. Her bio dad lives way north and she doesn't get along with him. In fact she has been forced in the past to visit with him and it's been bad. She won't go therapy because she's against it (I believe because she thinks it won't work given her home environment). She talks with my difficult child who tries to help her as much as possible but it's a pretty heavy load for a young girl. This girl thinks nothing of drinking and sex (as an escape I know for sure as I've read IM conversations). Now I need to stop worrying so much about the other and focus on mine because she's really having a hard time and she was beginning to do slightly better. :( Thanks for the thoughts. Coming back on to add....this is not going well. Current boyfriend just broke up with her. Sent her way over edge. She is in hysterics crying, been for an hour now. She came downstairs and handed me a bottle of pills. It was her pain pills from when she recently had teeth pulled (had 11 in was 20 but I know she had legitamately taken some previously when she needed them). I quickly asked her did you take these? She said no, that's why I'm giving them to you so I don't. (she's previously taken pills for other reasons and such. I now control all pills in house) She also handed me a little knife that she had been keeping as she had been cutting herself a while ago (didn't think she'd done it since but apparently maybe so). I am hurting for her. I know this should pass but sometimes have that fear. I also know that she knows I will put her inpatient even though she says you do that it would be the worst thing. Back again, I see she did do tiny bit of cutting on her leg in same spot she had before and once on her hand (is this new spot?). We have just now talked about some things, she is much calmer. In fact she got on the phone and is talking to her BFF from CA that she's known since she was very little. They will talk for some time and BFF will tell her what a jerk the guys are and such and tell her to straighten out her *** (all the usually BFF stuff that we know a good one does and should do). For now crisis averted and I think I've gotten her to think, yet again, about life and direction/path/choices/focus'. She is so darn smart and has a plan for her future. She knows what she wants out of it and how she has to go about it to get it. I just wish, WISH she could get over this desperate feeling that life is pointless too (as in we're all going to die in the end anyway). How can she think so duely? (is that even a word?) Too much happened tonight to quick, she was scared, mad, angry, upset all at once and then crash her system because at 16 didn't know how to handle it all at once. I will say it was a little overwhelming to me and I'm an adult. If a mod thinks this needs to move forums, please do so. [/QUOTE]
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