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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 419386" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>Shari--</p><p> </p><p>Tread carefully here....</p><p> </p><p>He IS genuinely trying. Yay! Please be careful not to discourage him by making it a contest or "getting back at him"...or one I've seen waaaayy too many women do over the years:</p><p> </p><p>After he does a task (and it's not as good as they would have done it) they criticize, point out all the mistakes and THEN give a speech along the lines of "Now do you see why I hate doing this? And I always get stuck doing it because you never....yadda, yadda, yadda".</p><p> </p><p>Baby steps, girl!</p><p> </p><p>Lots of praise. Reinforcement. And if he does a chore (any chore) - try to remember to react as though he just handed you a bouqet of roses. you know: gasp! Honey, you did this? O it's wonderful!</p><p> </p><p>DON'T point out his mistakes! Don't make a comparison of how many times he has done the chore vs you! Just act happy!</p><p> </p><p>And next time that chore needs doing, you add : "O honey - please don't forget to ________. You missed it last time."</p><p> </p><p>Let us know how it goes!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 419386, member: 6546"] Shari-- Tread carefully here.... He IS genuinely trying. Yay! Please be careful not to discourage him by making it a contest or "getting back at him"...or one I've seen waaaayy too many women do over the years: After he does a task (and it's not as good as they would have done it) they criticize, point out all the mistakes and THEN give a speech along the lines of "Now do you see why I hate doing this? And I always get stuck doing it because you never....yadda, yadda, yadda". Baby steps, girl! Lots of praise. Reinforcement. And if he does a chore (any chore) - try to remember to react as though he just handed you a bouqet of roses. you know: gasp! Honey, you did this? O it's wonderful! DON'T point out his mistakes! Don't make a comparison of how many times he has done the chore vs you! Just act happy! And next time that chore needs doing, you add : "O honey - please don't forget to ________. You missed it last time." Let us know how it goes!!! [/QUOTE]
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