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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 582175" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Confused, listen to me, it is not your fault, it is nobody's fault. Some kids are simply wired in a different way and that wiring causes them to act in ways that we don't understand. But taking responsibility for all of this will only give your children more opportunity to manipulate you through your guilt. Stop that line of thinking right now. Comparing our children to ANYONE else is an exercise in not only futility but it opens the door for us to feel like failures when in reality, other parents are just not dealing with what we are dealing with here on this board. </p><p></p><p>You need support, not only for yourself, but for your kids. This is not my area of expertise, but your son appears to have some issues which require evaluation. Perhaps your daughter too. I've read over and over on this board how parents have to keep on trying to find answers to their kids issues and often blame themselves, only to find out down the road that the child required all kinds of help, medication, special education, an entire village of people to help. </p><p></p><p>You sound overwhelmed and that would be easy to get to with two difficult young children and little support. Find someone to listen to you, a therapist, counselor, friend, clergy, someone who cares about you and can support you and what you need. Throw that guilt overboard and get support for yourself and your kids too. Others here know how to get the help for your kids, medical, psychological, educational, all of it. Ask other parents, talk to the school, get yourself some help. Take a deep breath and be kind to yourself. Gentle hugs coming your way right now...........</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 582175, member: 13542"] Confused, listen to me, it is not your fault, it is nobody's fault. Some kids are simply wired in a different way and that wiring causes them to act in ways that we don't understand. But taking responsibility for all of this will only give your children more opportunity to manipulate you through your guilt. Stop that line of thinking right now. Comparing our children to ANYONE else is an exercise in not only futility but it opens the door for us to feel like failures when in reality, other parents are just not dealing with what we are dealing with here on this board. You need support, not only for yourself, but for your kids. This is not my area of expertise, but your son appears to have some issues which require evaluation. Perhaps your daughter too. I've read over and over on this board how parents have to keep on trying to find answers to their kids issues and often blame themselves, only to find out down the road that the child required all kinds of help, medication, special education, an entire village of people to help. You sound overwhelmed and that would be easy to get to with two difficult young children and little support. Find someone to listen to you, a therapist, counselor, friend, clergy, someone who cares about you and can support you and what you need. Throw that guilt overboard and get support for yourself and your kids too. Others here know how to get the help for your kids, medical, psychological, educational, all of it. Ask other parents, talk to the school, get yourself some help. Take a deep breath and be kind to yourself. Gentle hugs coming your way right now........... [/QUOTE]
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