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<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 546907"><p>So, no real news to report. H had lunch with him today. Apparently, his girlfriend visited major university with- her best friend (who attends it) for a few days. Came home, broke up with difficult child, told him she was transferring to said big university in January and told him he could spend the night but he had to leave in the morning. She woke him up at 6am and said "get out." I am guessing it's another guy, C'est la vie</p><p></p><p>He told H he just wants to get back to his college town. Has a pt job lined up at a big warehouse where they DO drug test. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> Apparently his boss owes him LOTS of back pay - he just wants to collect it and move on. Had a hard time making July rent bc his boss hasn't paid him. Not sure what to believe. I know his boss, in the past he was paid regularly but I also know that business is bad. I know that he paid difficult child cash in July for an out of town job they did for the boss's brother. So...I am guessing difficult child is paying rent LAST and fun first. And that "when he comes back to town next summer" he will work for someone else. So, he has no desire to change his patterns. If he can be successful and get a good job in college town - he should stay there next summer. Work and take classes while paying his 12 month lease. He is so out of touch with the real world. </p><p></p><p>His plan is to demand the back pay from his boss, go up to college town get settled in the apartment, pay his back tuition and re-enroll in school. H reiterated that he might just want to stay in town and take the opportunity to wipe the slate clean and get back on his feet- but he just kept repeating that he wants to get out of here and go back to college town. H told him it sounded like he was running away and I guess difficult child bristled a bit so H dropped it.</p><p></p><p>Frankly, he hasn't grown up a bit. Nothing is changed. As I heard H reporting his responses, I could see difficult child sitting at our patio table (8/2011) telling us he "just wanted to make his own decisions" before he stormed out. Same words he gave us when he left both times in January. Same old song. Same dance. Doesn't seem to connect that "HIS decisions" are the reason his life is so screwed up. And doesn't seem to have a plan for fixing them. He is totally unrealistic. IF he can come up with the $6000 to re-enroll AND they accept him, he will need a 3.6 GPA to bring his current 1.4 GPA up to a 2.0 so that he can remain enrolled. If getting a 3.6 GPA is NO PROBLEM, how did he end up with a 1.4???</p><p></p><p>OK -so I need to stop typing. I am ranting here when I want to rant at him. At least not ranting at him is some sort of progress.</p><p> </p><p>I just guess I thought that there would be some sort of looking inward. NADA. He has just added his formerly beloved boss and beloved (ex) girlfriend to the list of people (H and me) responsible for holding him back. At the least, I guess it's nice to have company on that list. </p><p></p><p>He absolutely did not want to hear any advice or entertain the idea of coming home. Didn't ask for money either. </p><p></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: 'arial'">You know the saying: <span style="font-size: 12px"><em><span style="font-family: 'arial'"> Insanity=doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results...</span></em></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'arial'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><em><span style="font-family: 'arial'"></span></em></span></span></p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/groooansmileyf.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":groan:" title="groan :groan:" data-shortname=":groan:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 546907"] So, no real news to report. H had lunch with him today. Apparently, his girlfriend visited major university with- her best friend (who attends it) for a few days. Came home, broke up with difficult child, told him she was transferring to said big university in January and told him he could spend the night but he had to leave in the morning. She woke him up at 6am and said "get out." I am guessing it's another guy, C'est la vie He told H he just wants to get back to his college town. Has a pt job lined up at a big warehouse where they DO drug test. :-) Apparently his boss owes him LOTS of back pay - he just wants to collect it and move on. Had a hard time making July rent bc his boss hasn't paid him. Not sure what to believe. I know his boss, in the past he was paid regularly but I also know that business is bad. I know that he paid difficult child cash in July for an out of town job they did for the boss's brother. So...I am guessing difficult child is paying rent LAST and fun first. And that "when he comes back to town next summer" he will work for someone else. So, he has no desire to change his patterns. If he can be successful and get a good job in college town - he should stay there next summer. Work and take classes while paying his 12 month lease. He is so out of touch with the real world. His plan is to demand the back pay from his boss, go up to college town get settled in the apartment, pay his back tuition and re-enroll in school. H reiterated that he might just want to stay in town and take the opportunity to wipe the slate clean and get back on his feet- but he just kept repeating that he wants to get out of here and go back to college town. H told him it sounded like he was running away and I guess difficult child bristled a bit so H dropped it. Frankly, he hasn't grown up a bit. Nothing is changed. As I heard H reporting his responses, I could see difficult child sitting at our patio table (8/2011) telling us he "just wanted to make his own decisions" before he stormed out. Same words he gave us when he left both times in January. Same old song. Same dance. Doesn't seem to connect that "HIS decisions" are the reason his life is so screwed up. And doesn't seem to have a plan for fixing them. He is totally unrealistic. IF he can come up with the $6000 to re-enroll AND they accept him, he will need a 3.6 GPA to bring his current 1.4 GPA up to a 2.0 so that he can remain enrolled. If getting a 3.6 GPA is NO PROBLEM, how did he end up with a 1.4??? OK -so I need to stop typing. I am ranting here when I want to rant at him. At least not ranting at him is some sort of progress. I just guess I thought that there would be some sort of looking inward. NADA. He has just added his formerly beloved boss and beloved (ex) girlfriend to the list of people (H and me) responsible for holding him back. At the least, I guess it's nice to have company on that list. He absolutely did not want to hear any advice or entertain the idea of coming home. Didn't ask for money either. [FONT=arial]You know the saying: [SIZE=3][I][FONT=arial] Insanity=doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results... [/FONT][/I][/SIZE][/FONT] :groooansmileyf: [/QUOTE]
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