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<blockquote data-quote="1905" data-source="post: 605059" data-attributes="member: 2668"><p>She absolutely must leave the father's name blank. Here is a selling point for you to give her. One day, when all this is behind her, she will meet a wonderful man who she wants to marry. This man will also want Connor to be his. If the BC is left blank, it will be very simple to merely add his name to it, all you need is a notary. There, now Conner can easily be put on the man's insurance....etc...If she adds someone else's name there, there will have to be some long drawn out adoption. This will be a nightmare. Plus the baby may not even be the man who she names, and that's another whole fiasco...taking years to fix. If it ever can get fixed. This will be costly and and a major headache. Tell her if she names a man, you are coming after him for child support. For 18 years and how can she do that to someone who not only can't pay (they put people in jail for not paying), but may not even be the actual dad. You know what to say about that. Just paint a lovely picture of her future with a man who she will marry and how easy and within reach this is for her.</p><p></p><p>My future daughter in law (wedding in Nov) has a baby and is going through this same thing. It is BAD! The bio dad is not allowed at all to see the baby anymore because he lives I a drug den. Last Fri they went to court in an emergency basis, but they have to go back for the man never paying, ever. But when the baby did go there, he was just dropped off anywhere, because the man went out partying and they think he was left in his carseat all weekend. He is scared of the car seat suddently. This man doesn't even want the child, he actually asked to have his parental rights terminated in front of the judge. Imagine how sad this is to drop him there, knowing he wasn't going to be cared for. He was supposed to meet halfway to exchange the child but the man has never showed up ONCE. I'm not going to go into all this, but, for the safety of that baby........she can't name anyone as the father, especially not an unsavory person. In reality, you may have to let the person she may name have visitation or something. And heck no for that!!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="1905, post: 605059, member: 2668"] She absolutely must leave the father's name blank. Here is a selling point for you to give her. One day, when all this is behind her, she will meet a wonderful man who she wants to marry. This man will also want Connor to be his. If the BC is left blank, it will be very simple to merely add his name to it, all you need is a notary. There, now Conner can easily be put on the man's insurance....etc...If she adds someone else's name there, there will have to be some long drawn out adoption. This will be a nightmare. Plus the baby may not even be the man who she names, and that's another whole fiasco...taking years to fix. If it ever can get fixed. This will be costly and and a major headache. Tell her if she names a man, you are coming after him for child support. For 18 years and how can she do that to someone who not only can't pay (they put people in jail for not paying), but may not even be the actual dad. You know what to say about that. Just paint a lovely picture of her future with a man who she will marry and how easy and within reach this is for her. My future daughter in law (wedding in Nov) has a baby and is going through this same thing. It is BAD! The bio dad is not allowed at all to see the baby anymore because he lives I a drug den. Last Fri they went to court in an emergency basis, but they have to go back for the man never paying, ever. But when the baby did go there, he was just dropped off anywhere, because the man went out partying and they think he was left in his carseat all weekend. He is scared of the car seat suddently. This man doesn't even want the child, he actually asked to have his parental rights terminated in front of the judge. Imagine how sad this is to drop him there, knowing he wasn't going to be cared for. He was supposed to meet halfway to exchange the child but the man has never showed up ONCE. I'm not going to go into all this, but, for the safety of that baby........she can't name anyone as the father, especially not an unsavory person. In reality, you may have to let the person she may name have visitation or something. And heck no for that!!!! [/QUOTE]
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