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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 200818" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>Linda,</p><p></p><p>We had a lot of school issues with my difficult child also. Some people told me to let the school deal with her and not punish her for what happened there. I couldn't do that, I felt it was our responsibility to reinforce the school rules. Not only was it desired by the school, it was expected that parents would. If she stole something from someone or hit someone on the playground or didn't follow the classroom rules, what lesson was I teaching by ignoring that.</p><p></p><p>I've talked to our high school resource officer and the local juvenile police detective numerous times. They tell me stories of kids getting into trouble at school and when they call the parents in, those parents that reinforce the school rules are the kids they feel will straighten out. The ones whose parents ignore it and don't take action, are the ones they see over and over again. Of course this isn't always the case but it is significant they say.</p><p></p><p>The jury is still out with us. We have backed the school when our difficult child was wrong, and we have stood behind and supported her when they were wrong. That has given us the respect with our school administrators that we needed to get our difficult child through high school. Looking back it would have saved a lot of trouble and sleepless nights if we just left her behavior up to the school, but in my heart I know that would not have taught her anything.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 200818, member: 59"] Linda, We had a lot of school issues with my difficult child also. Some people told me to let the school deal with her and not punish her for what happened there. I couldn't do that, I felt it was our responsibility to reinforce the school rules. Not only was it desired by the school, it was expected that parents would. If she stole something from someone or hit someone on the playground or didn't follow the classroom rules, what lesson was I teaching by ignoring that. I've talked to our high school resource officer and the local juvenile police detective numerous times. They tell me stories of kids getting into trouble at school and when they call the parents in, those parents that reinforce the school rules are the kids they feel will straighten out. The ones whose parents ignore it and don't take action, are the ones they see over and over again. Of course this isn't always the case but it is significant they say. The jury is still out with us. We have backed the school when our difficult child was wrong, and we have stood behind and supported her when they were wrong. That has given us the respect with our school administrators that we needed to get our difficult child through high school. Looking back it would have saved a lot of trouble and sleepless nights if we just left her behavior up to the school, but in my heart I know that would not have taught her anything. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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