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<blockquote data-quote="Ropefree" data-source="post: 217957" data-attributes="member: 6271"><p>Hi Momto3: Preparing for trasitions is an area that is the most valuable piece for peace. We want our children to use their words and we have to be extra careFULL</p><p>to use our words.</p><p>In fact it is these everyday things and out of the ordinary ones that as the adult we set the stage for the problem solving skills of the future.</p><p>In my approach what I do is announce the plan in advance first. That way I can</p><p>build some excitement around what to anticipate in the future. Maybe when I know it is likely to happen. And as time goes by to offer plenty of oppertunity for a child to talk about what is going to be invovlved. </p><p>On the BIg day...I do the same thing. Say what is going to happen: get up, dress ,play leave in one hour. At half time say after awhile I am going to let you know when you have ten minutes befor we go, how does that sound?</p><p>At ten minutes...Ok in ten minutes we are going to leave. ARe you just about ready to put all the toys away? Then CLEAN UP TIME...there is even a hit song to go with clean up time...thank you BArney.</p><p>Coat on. You put your coat on by yourself? Want some help today?</p><p>It doesn't matter if the kid is fussing and behavoring the entire time as a parent you have to be there with them and putting the directions on their loop. ANd bless your heart you have to give them your beautiful woman voice and be sincere and loving or you will instill them with some shrew pitch.</p><p>A child is going to share all the little and large objections and refusals and it is in their best interest and our own to listen and give direction that meet their emotional need for attention as they wiggle into theri big child persona where co-operation is more a whole child participation.</p><p>I like the holding of a child in their anger because we give them a sence of control</p><p>when they are lost. </p><p>Good job there! the paths to sucess are bumpy. </p><p>How about massage therapy? Hmm. I am certain that there is a wealth of sensoral</p><p>learning to aid a child with all these outward going issues to be assisted to internalize the rudiments of learning to relax at will.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ropefree, post: 217957, member: 6271"] Hi Momto3: Preparing for trasitions is an area that is the most valuable piece for peace. We want our children to use their words and we have to be extra careFULL to use our words. In fact it is these everyday things and out of the ordinary ones that as the adult we set the stage for the problem solving skills of the future. In my approach what I do is announce the plan in advance first. That way I can build some excitement around what to anticipate in the future. Maybe when I know it is likely to happen. And as time goes by to offer plenty of oppertunity for a child to talk about what is going to be invovlved. On the BIg day...I do the same thing. Say what is going to happen: get up, dress ,play leave in one hour. At half time say after awhile I am going to let you know when you have ten minutes befor we go, how does that sound? At ten minutes...Ok in ten minutes we are going to leave. ARe you just about ready to put all the toys away? Then CLEAN UP TIME...there is even a hit song to go with clean up time...thank you BArney. Coat on. You put your coat on by yourself? Want some help today? It doesn't matter if the kid is fussing and behavoring the entire time as a parent you have to be there with them and putting the directions on their loop. ANd bless your heart you have to give them your beautiful woman voice and be sincere and loving or you will instill them with some shrew pitch. A child is going to share all the little and large objections and refusals and it is in their best interest and our own to listen and give direction that meet their emotional need for attention as they wiggle into theri big child persona where co-operation is more a whole child participation. I like the holding of a child in their anger because we give them a sence of control when they are lost. Good job there! the paths to sucess are bumpy. How about massage therapy? Hmm. I am certain that there is a wealth of sensoral learning to aid a child with all these outward going issues to be assisted to internalize the rudiments of learning to relax at will. [/QUOTE]
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