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<blockquote data-quote="KFld" data-source="post: 92017" data-attributes="member: 2442"><p>A huge part of my therapy and what I was told to work on this week is to not keep things in and start standing up for myself and say what I feel. I didn't do that last night and I really regretted it. I know I stood up for myself to a point, but not to the level I was happy with. This is what she wants me to work on and told me it's o.k. to not have said what I thought, but it's also o.k. to go back and fix that, so that is exactly what I did this morning after I typed this original post. </p><p></p><p>I called him at 7:30 this morning and asked him why he felt the need to tell me him and Judy were doing good?? I said, haven't you hurt me enough? Is there something I have done that you really feel you need to keep hurting me more? I asked him if he thought I was going to give him my best wishes and make sure to invite me to the wedding? </p><p></p><p>Then I told him that he had some nerve accusing me of not wasting anytime in filing, as he hasn't wasted 5 minutes on dealing with or grieving over the end of a 30 year relationship.</p><p></p><p>He just kept saying, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I don't think before I do or say anything. I said, yeah I know, you haven't been thinking before you do or say anything for a long long time! </p><p></p><p>I told him the only thing I was going to ask of him is that he has enough respect for me to start thinking before he says ANYTHING to me and to put himself in my shoes and really think before he says anything, how he would feel if I were to say what he's thinking of saying to him. </p><p></p><p>I was shaking and crying hyterically after I hung up, but I am proud of myself. If I hadn't called him I would have let this eat me up all day, then eventually I would have buried it in the back of my mind and let it sit there and fester like I have done with so much in the past, believing that I had put it to rest. I won't allow myself to do that anymore. I have to many things that were easier not to deal with at the time that are now resurfacing, and it's not a good feeling. </p><p></p><p>I think my counselor is going to be proud of me :smile:</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="KFld, post: 92017, member: 2442"] A huge part of my therapy and what I was told to work on this week is to not keep things in and start standing up for myself and say what I feel. I didn't do that last night and I really regretted it. I know I stood up for myself to a point, but not to the level I was happy with. This is what she wants me to work on and told me it's o.k. to not have said what I thought, but it's also o.k. to go back and fix that, so that is exactly what I did this morning after I typed this original post. I called him at 7:30 this morning and asked him why he felt the need to tell me him and Judy were doing good?? I said, haven't you hurt me enough? Is there something I have done that you really feel you need to keep hurting me more? I asked him if he thought I was going to give him my best wishes and make sure to invite me to the wedding? Then I told him that he had some nerve accusing me of not wasting anytime in filing, as he hasn't wasted 5 minutes on dealing with or grieving over the end of a 30 year relationship. He just kept saying, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I don't think before I do or say anything. I said, yeah I know, you haven't been thinking before you do or say anything for a long long time! I told him the only thing I was going to ask of him is that he has enough respect for me to start thinking before he says ANYTHING to me and to put himself in my shoes and really think before he says anything, how he would feel if I were to say what he's thinking of saying to him. I was shaking and crying hyterically after I hung up, but I am proud of myself. If I hadn't called him I would have let this eat me up all day, then eventually I would have buried it in the back of my mind and let it sit there and fester like I have done with so much in the past, believing that I had put it to rest. I won't allow myself to do that anymore. I have to many things that were easier not to deal with at the time that are now resurfacing, and it's not a good feeling. I think my counselor is going to be proud of me [img]:smile:[/img] [/QUOTE]
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