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Guess he doesn't think he's hurt me enough
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<blockquote data-quote="KFld" data-source="post: 92086" data-attributes="member: 2442"><p>busywend, Unfortunatley that is exactly what I am finding out about myself, that I have spent many years trying to keep him happy at my own expense. It was just so much easier to keep it all inside, instead of what I saw as making a big deal out of things and then listening to the negative comments like he was a little kid who's mother wasn't allowing him to do something. For instance, he would go out and drink to much and stay out to late and when I would speak up, he in turn would tell people that he wasn't allowed out, or he couldn't drink vodka because his wife wouldn't allow him to. It became easier to just keep my mouth shut and not say anything when he stayed out late, or drove home drunk and couldn't work for days because he would have vertigo from drinking so much. He learned a long time ago that vodka gave him vertigo and instead of owning up to it and admitting that is why he couldn't drink it, he'd tell people I wouldn't allow him to. That was embarassing to me, and nobody likes to feel embarassed, so I stopped saying anything and would just ignore him when he drank to much or was laying on the couch with vertigo. He calls it that I stopped communicating. I call it he was selfish and didn't want anyone telling him what to do and I became resentful and didn't like him too much anymore.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="KFld, post: 92086, member: 2442"] busywend, Unfortunatley that is exactly what I am finding out about myself, that I have spent many years trying to keep him happy at my own expense. It was just so much easier to keep it all inside, instead of what I saw as making a big deal out of things and then listening to the negative comments like he was a little kid who's mother wasn't allowing him to do something. For instance, he would go out and drink to much and stay out to late and when I would speak up, he in turn would tell people that he wasn't allowed out, or he couldn't drink vodka because his wife wouldn't allow him to. It became easier to just keep my mouth shut and not say anything when he stayed out late, or drove home drunk and couldn't work for days because he would have vertigo from drinking so much. He learned a long time ago that vodka gave him vertigo and instead of owning up to it and admitting that is why he couldn't drink it, he'd tell people I wouldn't allow him to. That was embarassing to me, and nobody likes to feel embarassed, so I stopped saying anything and would just ignore him when he drank to much or was laying on the couch with vertigo. He calls it that I stopped communicating. I call it he was selfish and didn't want anyone telling him what to do and I became resentful and didn't like him too much anymore. [/QUOTE]
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